8 Subtle Signs You’re More Attractive Than You Realise

Humans are just chimps with a haircut and more anxiety.

For all our skyscrapers, social media, and space travel, we’re still at the mercy of the laws of the jungle. Our subconscious tapping into something ancient and primal we can’t understand. It’s the invisible hand that guides our actions on a level we cannot comprehend.

Yet we’ve adapted a rational human brain that thinks it’s in control. And it’s often this desire for control that blinds us to the truth.

In a world where we’re bombarded with images of perfect bodies and desirable physiques, the pressure to fit a certain mould can corrupt our self-image.

So when we stare in the mirror we miss what’s right in front of us.

But being attractive isn’t just about looks. Sometimes it can be a vibe, an energy, or a way of living.

Maybe you feel like you’re having an ugly day. Maybe you feel like you’re the least attractive one in your friend group. I’m here to tell you that’s probably not the case.

Here are the signs to look for.

#1. You don’t get a lot of these

Compliments are the devil’s fruit.

You’d assume you’d get loads if you were attractive. But is that actually right?

Compliments offer validation. They strengthen bonds between people. They make us feel good.

So when we don’t get any, it’s tempting to believe we’re not worthy. That we’re missing some standard.

But it probably means exactly the opposite: people assume you already know how gorgeous you are!

Think about the last compliment you gave. Was it something obvious? Rarely is that the case. We tend to compliment people with things we assume they don’t know, or that aren’t blatant.

It might just be so obvious you’re attractive, how could you not know?

#2. The ones you do get seem like this

But what about those of us who do get compliments, but they seem insincere?

Your brain might try to rationalise that you don’t deserve them. Or that you only deserve generic comments. Or that you’re only getting them out of sympathy.

But again, don’t take it to heart. It could be that people are projecting their insecurities or jealousy onto you. Or they don’t feel they need to put their heart into a compliment because they know you already know it.

Imagine telling a tiger how stripy he is?

#3. You surprise people when you tell them about this

Everyone has insecurities.

And in any relationship we have, from friends to family to partners, we will share our vulnerabilities from time to time.

And yet things are all relative. So we may share our insecurities about our looks to a friend and be surprised when they respond ‘what are you talking about? You’re beautiful!’

See to them, it seems mind-blowing that you’d ever worry about that. Because in their mind, you’re stunning. It doesn’t compute that someone like you would have insecurities at all.

It just doesn’t compute.

#4. People pay attention to you

When you talk, people listen.

When you enter a room, people look at you.

And when you post up at a party, people tend to get drawn to you.

Call it vibe. Gravitas. The X-Factor.

Whatever it is, it’s magnetic. And you’re bursting with it.

#5. You often catch people doing this

We’re drawn to beautiful things.

The visual appeal of something easy on the eye draws our attention. The same goes for people.

As a result, you’ll often catch strangers staring at you. Or giving you a double take.

Of course, there is a line between admiring and being creepy. But sometimes people can’t help but be drawn to look at you. You’ve just got that special something.

Most people can do it covertly. But sometimes you’ll catch eyes with someone who was having a quick gander and their eyes will dart away.

Busted.

So long as they’re not being a total creep (it’s not just the weird pervy guys y’know), then see it as the compliment it is.

#6. People do this around you

Tripping on words. Goofy with steps. Blushing.

Sometimes we act differently around people we find attractive. Often to a cringy extent.

And while some people might be able to fight the urge to blurt out ‘I love you’, there’s still plenty of ways our motor skills can give us away.

So if you’re noticing people get a bit fidgety, nervous, or clumsy around you, it might well be a sign they’re into you.

You’re so attractive it’s scary.

#7. People have strong feelings about you (good and bad)

Provoking a reaction, no matter good or bad, means you resonate. You matter. You’re a ripple in another’s pool.

When it’s good, it feels great. People want you around because you add something. You’ve got that good juice, kid. Them genes. And people want to be around greatness, or the closest they can get to it anyway.

Talent, genetics, achievement. It doesn’t matter. People want to feel close to glory. To something that transcends the everyday.

But even when it’s bad, it’s not actually bad. It’s just people letting their green-eyed monster take the wheel. You’ve triggered in them a feeling of inadequacy or something similar. They’re threatened. They probably aren’t even conscious of why. It’s just a reaction to a feeling.

Don’t let it get to you. See it for what it is: a mighty compliment.

Because as the saying goes: jealousy is the highest form of flattery.

#8. You have a lot of dating options, and you’re never single for long

Plenty of options is not the same as plenty of good options. But still. If plenty of people keep propositioning you and trying to spend more time with you, that must mean something, right?

It’s not always obvious either. Sometimes people might just ask for your social media, or try to manufacture opportunities to see you again through group outings or shared locations.

But if you get the feeling people want to see you more, or are full on coming out and saying it, chances are you’re giving off some serious attractive vibes.