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light is inspiration light is energy
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light is love but I also think that
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darkness has all those things too
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because if you look into outer space
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that night there’s more darkness than
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there is light right and I think that
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we’ve like demonized darkness and I
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think that darkness is actually pivotal
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and like I’m very important to the
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balance of light like there is no light
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if there is no darkness it’s like
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holding all of these multiplicities as
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equal true
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I grew up in a very Christian household
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and so I was taught that who I was
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naturally as like an abomination and so
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I had to go through the process of
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unlearning that and then relearning how
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to how I see myself and that’s a
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continuous learning process and it’s not
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just like oh I learned about myself and
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I’m over and like no different things to
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go back in and like different ways of
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thinking come back to me and I really
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have to rework through them on an
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ongoing basis
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self up to me is self-exploration
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self-mastery really learning how to be
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in control of your body in your mind
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whatever feels natural for you
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I think self-love can be hard to like
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embody on a daily basis the society we
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live in as actively trying to teach us
01:45
to hate ourselves or to hate on
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ourselves or to feel anxiety about who
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we are in comparison to other people
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self-love is really just only looking at
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yourself
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in comparison to your own self and they
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cannot compare yourself to other people
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and really like looking at how you want
02:03
to be a better person and setting goals
02:06
for yourself and working towards those
02:07
goals in a healthy way and the way that
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feels
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generative dating is pretty hard I would
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say for a lot of people but particularly
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for girls like me it’s hard just a lot
02:20
of situations that go into people
02:23
wanting to date me or not I date a
02:25
variety of people I don’t just be like
02:27
1/2 the person but right now I would say
02:30
there hasn’t been a situation where they
02:32
worked out love just looks like a lot of
02:35
different things than just romance and
02:36
sex and so you can be alone as a not
02:41
have a partner and still find love in
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the world
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[Music]
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to be in love with yourself is to hold
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space for yourself to do deep learning
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and horseface for yourself to be okay
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alone like are you okay with being alone
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with yourself it can be scary because
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sometimes I will come across like
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feelings that I haven’t felt sort of
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thought about in a while and then it
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feels like oh like am I like exciting
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backwards or something to say
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I
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[Music]
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[Music]
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this sheer act of acknowledging how I
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feel and allowing it to pass through me
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and move on with my life and grow from
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that learning experience that is what
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self love is all about it’s like not
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just about like the fun like like
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self-care day like treat yourself like
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it’s not just that it’s like also like
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letting yourself go through the heart
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the heart and I really come out a
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better person and like trusting in
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yourself to carry yourself through that
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you
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