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Avoid This Type of Guy! (#1 Rule for Avoiding a Love Bomber) [Video]

Why do some people move quickly, shower you with love, and then become emotionally unavailable and lose interest?

March 15, 2022 by Matthew Hussey Leave a Comment

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My Attraction CPR Masterclass is just around the corner. If the person you’re dating has pulled away or gone cold and you want to know why (and learn how to get their interest back), join me on January 26, when I’ll be holding a two-hour deep dive on this subject for my Love.Life members. If you’re not a member yet, go to AskMH.com for more information and to claim your 14-day free trial so you can join us for the Masterclass (and more) this month.

Why do some people move quickly, shower you with love, and then become emotionally unavailable and lose interest? It can feel confusing.

They chase and chase and chase, and then you feel like a light switch flicked and all their passion disappears. Are they misguided romantics? Or deceitful manipulators?

If you’ve been through this hot and cold scenario and want to know EXACTLY what behavior to look for in the early stages, this video is for you.

Transcript provided by YouTube:

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if you want to know where it’s going

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measure consistency not intensity i will

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repeat that shift because that is

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gold in my most previous relationships

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men would love bomb me for the first six

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months

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get me to release my guard and when i

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did they grew distant and i ended up

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chasing what they were giving me for the

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first six months of the relationship how

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can i spot emotionally unavailable guys

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sooner to save myself from the

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heartbreak of someone coming in love

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bombing me i suddenly open up and want

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to give them the world and then they’re

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not interested anymore here’s what i’ll

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say that will sum this up because

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there’s plenty of men out there that

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will do this

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and they will go an inorganic pace and

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you will feel a pressure to do it a

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because you want

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you’re kind of on some level it’s like

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well it’s kind of what i want isn’t it i

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mean i did want all of this and it seems

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to be moving at this really rapid pace

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so maybe this is it but there’s still

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that part of your mind that’s like but

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this is a this does feel fast is it real

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is it organic um and also of course when

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you’re attracted to someone it’s

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tempting to go at their pace but

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the key thing you have to think about is

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relationships are consistency over

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grandiosity

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and

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in the early stages of dating

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you have to not be blinded by the

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grandiosity of someone’s pace or their

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actions or their words

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and instead watch like a hawk for

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consistency

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you own

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the pace

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in the early stages of dating don’t give

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it to somebody else on a platter this is

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i’m not saying don’t give yourself on a

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platter girl power all of that that’s

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not what i’m saying i’m saying don’t

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give

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your power your control the pace of the

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situation to somebody else to determine

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before you continue the video is there

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someone in your life you like but you

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felt them pulling away what can you do

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about it to bring the attraction back

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well i get this question thousands of

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times a month so on the 26th of january

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i am doing a deep dive two hour master

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class on what i’m calling attraction cpr

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why people pull away and what you can do

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to bring the attraction back now i’m

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doing this just for my members but you

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can become a member by going to

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askmh.com

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and you can even have a free trial right

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now that includes the 26th masterclass

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so go to askmh.com to find out more or

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click the link in the description if you

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feel like someone wants to see you six

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times a week and you just met a week ago

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then

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you have to be the one to say

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to to pull it back and say you know

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in your own mind you can say to yourself

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i’m not really comfortable seeing this

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person more than twice a week or three

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times a week right now i have other

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things in my life this person hasn’t

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really earned that space in my life yet

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i do not know them

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they are a stranger

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and no matter what the feelings or the

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chemistry

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i won’t know this person until i’ve

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spent more time with them over time more

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time over a single day doesn’t mean you

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know someone

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anyone can put in a great performance

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for a day

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even for 12 hours straight

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but have you seen them consistently over

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several weeks

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or months to a point where it feels like

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the next stage of the relationship is

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actually earned

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if it feels like it’s too much too soon

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it probably is

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and you have to be i have you have to

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own the pace yourself

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and be prepared to slow it down that’s

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the only way to really know if someone’s

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going to be consistent and consistency

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is the greatest measure of where it’s

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going not the intensity of the actions

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of the behaviors of the words if you

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want to know where it’s going measure

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consistency not intensity i will repeat

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that because that is gold if you

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want to know where it’s going measure

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consistency

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not intensity i really want you to check

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out this next video i believe it’s going

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to help you a lot click here they want

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to come in and make you fall in love

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with them as quickly as possible because

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that’s where they get their validation

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and once they feel validated once they

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feel like ah i did it i made them fall

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for me look how wonderful i am they can

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then move on

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About Matthew Hussey

Relationship Expert Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey is the world’s leading dating expert for women.

For the past 8 years he has coached millions of women around the world to help them get the love lives of their dreams.

He is a New York Times bestselling author, he has his own national radio show, he’s been given his own television show, Rachael Ray, Katie Couric, Ryan Seacrest, Meredith Vieira, Elvis Duran, Match.com and many others frequently invite him to share his advice.

Matthew is also a monthly relationship advice columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine and the dating expert on ABC’s digital series What To Text Him Back.

He’s had the privilege of working with royalties and celebrities like Christina Aguilera and Eva Longoria. He’s also coached over 100,000 women in his live seminars and his training videos have reached over 217,000,000 women around the world.

Connect with him on Facebook, Twitter @MatthewHussey, and on his website, HowToGetTheGuy.com.

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