I had started to live again, to feel that I loved myself again. I started to feel once more that my body was not a burden for me. I began to feel again that I wanted to live for myself, that happiness was becoming a part of me again. I felt that I was enough for myself, that my happiness did not depend on anyone else. I started living for happiness, doing everything for myself, and in that moment, I truly felt happy in my life.
But then, once again, the same sorrows, the same tensions began to return. Just when I was happy in my life, suddenly it felt as if tears of sorrow were raining from the sky. Why does this happen to us? Whenever we try to keep ourselves happy, someone comes and takes our happiness away from us. Perhaps fate does not like us being happy. Maybe fate wants us to cry, to stay in tension.
We humans do so much for our own happiness, but there comes a time when keeping ourselves happy is no longer in our hands. Because we live in a society, we meet people, and among those people, there is someone we desire and then our happiness becomes tied to that person, and so does our pain. The way they treat us, we also begin to change accordingly. If they treat us well and lovingly, we stay happy; but if they don’t, this world starts to feel like hell for us.
And maybe in your life too, you have met such people who you liked, and with whom your happiness became tied. Such people are like snakes: no matter how much you care for a snake and keep it in your home, one day it will become poison to you. They neither give you love nor leave you. They create a world for you in which you can neither go backward nor move forward; you just get stuck.
When you give these people love, they don’t value it. But when you ignore them, they start coming back to you, trying to make you feel that they love you. Such people never let others live in peace. It’s very difficult to understand what such people actually want from us.
We want to get out of it, to get away from such people, but they don’t let us go. When we start to leave, they emotionally manipulate us, bring us back into their lives, and then once again hurt us and play with our lives.
That’s why I want to tell everyone: if there’s such a person in your life, first think about yourself, your own mental peace, and then about that person. Ask yourself: “Am I truly happy with this person?” And even if you are happy, is it only for a day while the pain returns the next day? The decision is in your hands.
If you really want to keep yourself happy, listen to your mind, not your heart. Leave that person’s life. Go so far away and keep yourself so busy and give yourself so much time that they don’t even come to your mind.
And if their memories do come, remember the things that caused you pain. And even if they come back to you, it should not affect you anymore. Don’t believe their false love. Always keep this in your mind: even if you go back into their life, what’s the benefit? This person won’t change. The pain won’t end. It’s better to give yourself time, live for yourself, keep yourself happy, stay alone, and be happy.
I want to tell everyone: if you are alone and you are happy, don’t give anyone the right to destroy your mental peace. The one who truly loves you will never give you mental pain, they will give you mental peace.
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