If you are a fan of the Chilling Adventures of Sabrina series on Netflix, you most likely know the moment when Nick Scratch told Sabrina Spellman, We’re endgame.
For those familiar with the series, it was finally a moment we could witness two people in and out of love with one another come together. Despite all they had been through with their relationship, they ultimately belonged together.
Is an endgame relationship something that can exist in real life? Several signs may indicate you have found your endgame partner.
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You have your best friend and lover in one.
When I first met my husband, I thought he was hot. His dark hair and hazel eyes grabbed my attention. Then one day over a casual conversation with burgers and fries, I noticed something else. There was a feeling of unexpected excitement. Shortly in the months following and many discussions later, he was, in fact, the best friend I never had.
We all have had past relationships where this isn’t the case of having both the physical and mental connection with someone. We may experience a strong friendship, but kissing yields no spark. So too other relationships may have been more physical, but the substance of real connection is lacking.
With endgame relationship status you have both the truest friendship and sexual, physical attraction in the same partner.
The conversation keeps you engaged all night.
You and your partner just click. Words continue pouring out from one another in this beautiful composition of a conversation that doesn’t want to end.
You enjoy talking to one another so much that you stay up an entire night until right before the sun rises. You are completely sober but at the same time very intoxicated by the discussion. Finally, your eyelids get so heavy that they close as you trail off in thought.
After over a decade of marriage, endgame relationship status still yields those evening dialogues. Only now, your body crashes much earlier. The day is tiring taking care of kids, but your whole self wants to keep engaging with the other person next to you. You simply can’t help yourself. You still enjoy their presence and hearing their thoughts.
You both want to be equals in the relationship.
My husband views me as his equal. We both want respect and support from one another. We both prefer standing side by side vs. one of us constantly leading.
Entering parenthood, we wanted the experiences to be a jointly felt effort. There wasn’t arguing over who would change the next diaper. We were both on the floor with one holding our son and the other wiping his bum.
With an endgame relationship, you’re in it together. It’s not about a 50/50 split necessarily. No one person is taking everything on to keep the other afloat. You both have a desire to take equal responsibility in the relationship.
Their encouragement is endless in tough times.
It was my first semester getting my MBA. Multiple struggles were happening. Circumstances at home 3 hours away were in disarray. After my first exam in my economics class, I was failing. Never in my life did I feel so vulnerable and prone to failure.
At the time, the relationship was still early with my husband. I was crumbling with personal doubt, but he was unwavering with encouragement. With his embraces and words, he gave me what I needed to keep going.
Tough things are going to happen constantly, but an endgame partner gives you the strength to keep trudging upwards.
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Realizing we have found endgame love is like hitting relationship gold. With it comes all the best parts of falling and staying in love with someone. We discover our best friend, soul mate, lover, and unwavering match.
In many ways we find relief. After all this time and other relationships, we find the one we can’t imagine doing life without.
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This post was previously published on Medium.
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