Welcome to part two of our series on how to discover and nurture your voice.
If you didn’t read last week’s column – and if you didn’t, here it is – you know that we’re going to ask a question each Friday through July to determine the best path for you to discover your own powerful voice. Don’t forget that we’re in the house lifting business, y’all.
This week, we’re going to go into a little more detail on the question I asked last week.
Here’s our discussion question for this week:
What is your truth?
Let’s face it, there are aspects about ourselves that none of us are going to like.
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When you own your truth, that’s the first step in developing your voice.
I want y’all to understand one important aspect. When I talk about owning your voice, I’m talking about your real, authentic, and vulnerable voice. This isn’t simply another mask that you put on. This is who you’re being when all the masks are off, and you’re being real.
In an effort to help you get in touch with your truth, I want to ask five simple questions. And feel free to leave your own responses in the comments of this piece or email me at [email protected].
1.Who are you being?
This question is the base of everything I do as an ontological life coach. Because ontology is simply the study of who you’re being in the world.
Let’s pull back and analyze this one a little deeper. Are you being a king? Are you being a prince, Or, are you being a peasant?
In case you need a refresher:
- King: Are you taking responsibility for your life? Are you owning your relationships and how you’re being in your relationships? Are you being a grownup?
- Prince: Do you feel a little overwhelmed by new relationships and new experiences? Do you feel like there’s something more, but you don’t know how to get it? Are you being a little kid?
- Peasant: Do you constantly see yourself as a victim? Do you believe that life owes you? And if life doesn’t give you what you ask, do you lash out? Are you being a brat pitching a temper tantrum?
I believe that if you can be a King at least 80% of the time, your potential is limitless. I’m a King, and I shift between all three of these at the drop of the metaphorical hat.
2.What can you accept?
Let’s face it, there are aspects about ourselves that none of us are going to like. You’re the only one who lives with you from the moment you take your first breath until the moment you draw your final breath.
I’ll never forget a conversation I had with my friend Christina. Since we graduated from Accomplishment Coaching, Christina has become a coaching rock star. To say nothing of being one of the most powerful women I have the privilege to know.
About a year ago, she let me in on a pretty cool secret.
She relayed a conversation she had with a mutual friend of ours who asked her “what’s different with Ryan? He seems way more confident now.”
Christina said to me that she told him “I believe he’s so much more accepting of who he is.”
Make no mistake, there are things about myself that I do not like. The fact that I can be like the Sybil of my own King/Prince/Peasant distinction is something I don’t really like about myself. But I’m more accepting of that aspect of myself now than I used to be.
It’s a daily practice, and one that I occasionally take on willingly. But I’m taking it on.
3.Who or what can you forgive?
We all have our shadows. We’ve all made mistakes. We’ve all screwed up. And we’ve all done things we’re not proud of.
I believe that if you can be a King at least 80% of the time, your potential is limitless.
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I can’t stress this enough, get complete! Get complete with your past, your shadows, and with the people who have done you wrong.
Let go of that bullshit so that you can receive your truth! it doesn’t matter what happened before, it’s all bullshit!
You may think that the final two questions are the same, but they’re really not. However, I’m going to ask them together.
4.What can you change about yourself?
5.What can you transform about yourself?
I’ve used this analogy before.
- The change is the result.
- The transformation is the path you take to get to the result.
For example: if you have a weight loss goal (as I do:)
- The change is the number on the scale that I want.
- The transformation is the lifestyle I need to achieve the change I want.
I want you to take a serious look at all five of these questions. This isn’t an all-encompassing list at all, but I believe it provides a glimpse at just what makes you uniquely you.
Make no mistake, if you aren’t owning, taking responsibility for, and creating your truth, then owning your voice is impossible. This is because what you have to say isn’t coming from a real and authentic place.
The world doesn’t need another bullshit artist. The world needs kings! And a king isn’t a BS artist!
If you would like to get a head start on owning your voice to be a king in the world, I’d love to support you. Email me at [email protected] so we can set up that free sample coaching session.
Oh, and follow me on social media (twitter.com/ryanhallwrites.) I’m just sayin’, an awesome announcement is coming soon about how to own your Royal Voice.
Here’s next week’s discussion question. We’ll expand on it more in next Friday’s column, but here’s the question:
What or who inspires you?
This can be a person. This can be a place. This can be an idea. This can be something in the media. This can be an animal. It doesn’t really matter.
Whatever or whomever inspires you, this makes you want to be better. That’s it. It simply makes you want to be better.
And the most inspirational person I know…I look at in the mirror every day.
Ah, but that’s next week.
It’s time to speak up, my Kings!
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