‘Evolved’ is the New Ego Trip!

Hey, “personal growth” people!  Why can’t you see that is no different than the EGO TRIP you are denouncing!  Let’s all meditate and feel evolved (superior)!

People get judged if they aren’t into the LOA, or Meditation or the newest fad of ‘EVOLVED”. Hell, even in the cognitive behavioral therapy that I follow I’ve been judged for not following along with what Byron Katie says.  I mean, how dare I have an opinion outside of what a guru says.

Here is what I hear: IF YOU MEDITATED EVERY DAY YOU WOULDN’T FEEL THIS WAY, THIS WOULD NOT HAVE “SHOW UP” IN YOUR LIFE.

IF YOU DID IT THE “RIGHT WAY”, YOU WOULD “GO WITH THE FLOW”.

IF YOU DID the CBT EVERYDAY YOU WOULDN’T BE SO STRESSED OUT OR FEELING THIS WAY.

IF YOU FOLLOWED ONE GURU AND STUCK WITH IT, YOU’D BE FURTHER ALONG THAN YOU ARE.

How arrogant! And ironic.

Don’t get me wrong, all those things are wonderful.  Growth is, meditation is, finding peace, slowing down is, not over-thinking.

But often times it is simply EGO, taken to the extreme.

When it’s supposed to be about: keeping the EGO out, relinquishing judgments.

What it’s not supposed to be:  using your supposed lack of judgment to boost your own ego.

As if they are MORE EVOLVED than you are.

As if there is a Measuring tape that gauges EVOLVED.

As if there is no place in our journey when we backslide, we forget, we don’t have a teacher show up.  That we never have a higher mountain to climb. Cuz! We are evolved!

IS THAT EVEN TRUE?  In my experience, NO!

In other words, these people are so EVOLVED that there is no room for growth! Can you see it?

I see it with parents that are so evolved that they don’t have to be responsible for consistency with their child; the parent and child rather have loose boundaries about let the child “decide”.

Newsflash:  children feel more loved and safer with boundaries! They would do better if they are shown what accountability and responsibility are.

People “evolve” themselves to the point where they do not want to take responsibility for being “fully present” in a relationship and making conscious choices – hard choices-choices that will, later on, determine the health and wellbeing of the relationship and themselves.

I’ve written about this before, loose boundaries are just laziness and unaccountability. It is not wanting to stop and pay attention to the actions of others and make a conscious choice about how that works in our lives! Some people use EVOLVED as an excuse!!!

BEING EVOLVED IS A EGO TRIP that is designed to just have another ego fix – another thing to follow- another group to fit in- another way of seeking belonging and approval from others, another way to judge others, another way to not stand up, not speak up, not take chances!

It is also a way to seem like you are growing, when in fact, you are just standing in one place just at a different venue.

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