Extreme Ownership: How to Put Yourself Into a Consistent Self Growth Cycle

Ever feel like life is a never-ending series of curveballs?

You’re so happy with your progress, and everything is going so well, but then something happens, and you feel completely off balance.

When you’re in the middle of something, it’s easy to think you’re doing everything right. But when something goes wrong, it’s easy to feel like you’re not doing anything right.

If your determination has ever wavered or you struggle to get back on track when you screw up, you need a more resilient mindset; extreme ownership. It’s the only choice that leads to self-growth.

Extreme ownership means taking full responsibility for your actions, choosing to own your mistakes without identifying with them, and finding ways to get back to winning ways as fast as possible.

“How we own our mindset will bring abundance or scarcity,” says Danielle Bernock.

Everyone has had a moment when their plan doesn’t go as it should. People with extreme ownership mindsets rebound as quickly as possible and keep moving forward.

When things don’t go to plan ( which happens most of the time because life is not linear), your ability to rebound and refocus on a better actionable plan can help you succeed faster.

For every new challenge or experience, you’ll also face some setbacks. Your response to the many issues in life prepares you for the next one

Rebounding from setbacks is a lot harder for many people.

Our natural instinct is to feel sad and discouraged when things go wrong. We worry, complain and criticise.

We blame ourselves, others and the world in general for our failure, and we become convinced that there’s no way we can ever succeed again.

“You are the reason of your own good-luck and bad-luck; success and failure; happiness and pain. Your choices are responsible for your present. Don’t blame someone else for your sufferings or failures,” explains Sanjeev Himachali.

Extreme ownership can help you put your setbacks behind you and focus on what to do next.

“Taking complete ownership of your outcomes by holding no one but yourself ”responsible for them is the most powerful thing you can do to drive your success,” says Gary W. Keller.

Fixating on our problems only makes us doubt ourselves more, which rocks our self-confidence.

You’ll be a leader in every area of your life when you learn how to rebound when something goes wrong.

You’ll be able to quickly refocus your energy, have a positive outlook on the future, and keep pushing forward.

It’s also the best way to put yourself into a self-growth cycle consistently.

When you’re going through a rough patch, it can be challenging to see the bright side of things. But it’s important to maintain the right perception to see past your present and temporary obstacles.

Rebounding when things go wrong isn’t easy, but it’s necessary if you want to make progress or become a better version of yourself.

Setbacks in your life can take many different forms, from bad dates to an incompetent employee.

It can be tempting to give up and return to where you were before when something goes wrong. But that’s the exact opposite of what you need to do.

Take ownership, look for the lesson in what went wrong and give yourself time to get back to winning ways.

“Wisdom stems from personal accountability. We all make mistakes; own them… learn from them. Don’t throw away the lesson by blaming others,” says Steve Maraboli.

The courage to own your chaos changes everything.

In every life experience, own your mess, appreciate what’s going well, learn from what’s not working, and focus on steps to make your next action successful.

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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.

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