So often I witness people who say they want to find better, more, easier…
But want to hold on to their current lifestyle and habits.
When I begin to challenge them, that their current state produced their current outcomes…
Their happiness, health, and wealth…
Sometimes they begin to fight to hold on to their current mindset, lifestyle, and habits.
They fight to remain the same while saying they want better.
They are not ready.
Not ready yet.
They have not found their bottom, whatever their bottom looks like.
They will.
I found mine.
I hit my bottom so hard that it hurt worse to remain the same than it did to make changes.
When I made changes…
Finally realizing that I didn’t have it all figured out…
When I realized that my alcoholism, my anger, my rage, my hurts, my depression, my codependency, my anxiety, my identification with materials…
Caused my crash.
When I made deep, impactful changes to my beliefs, habits, lifestyle, thoughts, worldview…
When I began to make changes for MY best interest…
I began to recognize outcomes I preferred.
I began to feel the way I wanted to feel.
I began to act in my best interest, while others around me continued to spiral.
I realized that my current life creates my current outcomes.
In order to discover better outcomes, I must become the person capable of creating those outcomes.
And sometimes that means leaving the old me behind.
Disassociating from the identity, the ego, the chaotic lifestyle which created the old outcomes.
There is no hocus pocus.
There’s only work, learning, and changes to create the life and outcomes we desire.
It’s about first finding the feeling of being capable of finding happiness, health, and wealth.
Only then can we achieve what we seek.
Only then can we create the life we desire.
But only when we are ready.
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This post was previously published on mikekitko.com.
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