Four Ways to Make Your First Date Magical

Congratulations. You finally did it.

You asked her out, and she agreed.

And now that she’s said yes, you feel both happy and terrified. After all, she’s given you the opportunity to make a connection, but it’s up to you to take advantage of it.

You begin to panic. “What do you do?” “What do you say?” “Where do you take her?”

The truth is there’s no one right answer. Still, there are specific ways you can up your chances of winning her heart.

However, before we get into the specifics, let me give you the bottom line.

The sexiest thing in the world is how you make another person feel.

With this in mind, here are some tips to make that first date extra special.

Make your date feel comfortable.

You’re nervous about the date, right? She is too. One way to help make things more comfortable is to set a time limit for the date (preferably only a couple of hours). This works to your benefit in two ways.

First, it gives her the peace of mind that if the date goes horribly, she doesn’t have to be miserable for four hours. Second, if she really likes you, you’ll make an exit and leave her wanting more.

“Leave them wanting more, and you know they’ll call you back.” — Bobby Womack

Make her feel beautiful.

Whether or not women want to admit it, we want to feel desirable.

That doesn’t mean we want you to come on to us like the drunk guy at the bar who’s undressing us with his eyes. As a matter of fact, if you come on too strong, there’s a good possibility your date will be looking for the nearest exit.

Instead of spewing compliments, look for the right moments to tell your date what you find attractive about her.

For example, a good starting point is at the beginning of the date. Tell her she looks nice. No more, no less.

The reason is that this type of compliment is non-threatening.

As the date goes on, there’ll be times you can subtly insert other things you find appealing about her.

Whatever you do, remember this: Be genuine.

Can’t you smell a brown-noser a mile away? Well, so can she.

After all, you wouldn’t have asked her out unless you found her alluring. Now you just have to search for times during the date when you can let her know why.

And if you can deliver that good feeling without being sleazy, she’ll want the “feel good” more. And to get that “feel good,” chances are she’ll want to see you again.

“Women absolutely love compliments, so you should give them generously. Do not be afraid to let a woman know how attractive she is, what you like about her, and what is special about her. “ — W. Anton

Make her feel free.

Regardless of what sex we are, we all want to let loose. However, for many of us, it’s too scary. That’s why we all secretly crave someone who’ll encourage us to lose our minds for a bit and throw caution to the wind.

So now that you’ve managed to get a date with her, be creative. Think of low-pressure ways to make things exciting. Here are some ideas.

Take her to an amusement park.
Go to a comedy club.
Make reservations for a murder mystery dinner.
Take her to trivia night at a bar or restaurant.
Go to places where you can make pottery or sip wine while each creating your own art.
Attend an outside festival.
Go bowling.
Play bingo.
If she’s extra brave, take her to an escape room.

An important thing to know: She’s likely to resist at first.

However, what you need to remember is that most women’s inner free spirit needs a little nudge.

Don’t push, but help her along a little. Trust me. At the end of the night, when she’s beaten you at laser tag, or you’ve escaped the inescapable escape room together, she’ll want more of the “natural high” you’ve provided her.

Then, when you’re taking her home after the date, ride with the windows down and play her favorite music. Sing along if you have the courage. Who knows? Maybe she’ll do the same.

“The ultimate first date? Something that is completely out of the ordinary — go crazy, because first dates are always a little awkward, so do something a little extreme.” — Gina Carano

Make her feel seen and heard.

One thing that attracts a woman to a man is when he sees her — really sees her.

For example, when you’re on the date, look for small clues that tell you how she’s feeling.

Does she look cold? Offer her your coat. Does she look uncomfortable? Do something to make her feel more relaxed. For instance, ask her questions to help her loosen up (just don’t ask questions that pry). Tell a story that makes her laugh. Admit something embarrassing about yourself. (It’s likely to take the pressure off her to be perfect.)

Another big part of feeling heard is knowing that you’re listening to what she says.

Let’s say she mentions she loves ice cream. Offer to end the date with a stop by the ice cream store. Maybe during your conversation, your date reveals she’s usually in bed by nine. Decide to shorten the date, making sure to mention you know she needs her shut-eye.

When you do these things, she’ll know you’re listening and think you’re considerate.

“Listening is a magnetic force.” — Karl A. Menning