Let’s make one thing clear, shall we? Having opinions does not imply unhappiness, and having opinions does not equate to having a ‘bad temperament.’
Some people say that individuals prefer partners who are gentle, as those without opinions are more likely to win hearts because they can become supportive spouses and parents. However, there are also those who argue that excessive passivity may lead to boredom in a marriage and a lack of freshness. For me, individuals who possess their own opinions and assertiveness in life are more likely to win their partner’s heart because they continuously bring a sense of novelty and excitement.
When a couple has been together for a while, it’s easy to fall into predictable routines that can become monotonous. What helps reignite the spark is introducing new ideas, perspectives, interests, and hobbies, along with expressing new opinions. All of these can bring a renewed level of excitement to the relationship. For example, partners can challenge each other’s viewpoints, explore new activities together, and keep the relationship dynamic and vibrant.
Marriage differs from dating as it involves elevating the connection to a true partnership or a family relationship. In a marriage, you interact with your partner daily. If both individuals have quick tempers, conflicts may arise more frequently. However, if both partners are willing to manage their tempers for each other’s sake, the marriage can thrive.
On the other hand, a marriage where one partner lacks any personal opinions is more prone to problems. When someone listens to everything their spouse says without expressing their own thoughts, they may lose their sense of identity and position in the family, becoming overshadowed by their partner. This situation can lead to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction, not just for the person with suppressed opinions, but also for their partner who may begin to feel unfulfilled.
Women with their own perspectives and unique opinions bring freshness, excitement, and joy to a marriage.
Every relationship experiences phases of passion and times of routine. Even couples deeply in love won’t maintain the same level of passion they had in the beginning after many years of marriage. However, if a partner has no temperament and merely follows their spouse’s lead every day, it can lead to the perception of having no position in the family, no individual thoughts, and no opinions. Ultimately, this may cause emotional distance in the relationship. Therefore, I believe that women should have their own temperament. A bit of disagreement and small quarrels between partners can actually add some fun and excitement to the marriage.
A woman who is willing to express her opinions and assert herself can create a sense of excitement and challenge in the marriage. She can initiate debates or playfully tease her spouse, which can keep the relationship from becoming overly serious or monotonous.
Partners with opinions and ideas contribute to a happy marriage.
Some women may choose to follow their husbands in everything, even if they are dissatisfied, and may hesitate to express their true feelings. This behavior may convey a lack of individuality and independent thought, potentially leading to a sense of staleness in the marriage.
Therefore, I believe it is essential for women to bring a wide range of opinions, emotions, thoughts, and ideas to a relationship. Doing so can make partners appreciate each other more, increase their sense of mutual understanding, and ultimately bring more happiness to the marriage.
A woman who is willing to communicate her feelings and thoughts to her spouse can create a sense of intimacy and connection in the marriage.
She can share her joys and sorrows with her partner and work together to overcome any challenges they may face. On the other hand, a woman who consistently suppresses her feelings and opinions may struggle to establish a strong emotional bond with her spouse.
In marriage, it’s crucial for women to understand that expressing their opinions and communicating their feelings does not mean being confrontational or aggressive. Of course, communication should occur in a calm and respectful manner, while still being assertive about boundaries and beliefs. An even-keeled personality overall can lead to a more harmonious and fulfilling marriage.
Additionally, it’s essential to consider the “right timing” and “context” for expressing feelings. Bringing up sensitive topics during heated arguments or in public settings may not be productive. Instead, choosing a time when both partners are relaxed and have the space for meaningful conversation is more effective.
Having a balanced approach to expressing temperament and communicating feelings is key to a happy and fulfilling marriage. It allows for a sense of intimacy and connection while also fostering individuality and maintaining boundaries. With the right timing and approach, women can create a marriage that is both loving and respectful.
What are your on the ways couples get marriages to work? Feel free to share your insights in the comments!
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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