GMP is covering this important and sensitive topic on all fronts. Consider submitting your story and join the conversation no one else is having.
Shame can’t survive being spoken. It just dies on the vine. –Brené Brown
For the next few weeks, The Good Men Project will be focusing on the topic of men, shame, and vulnerability across the site and in many sections. We invite you to contribute your story and point of view to this important discussion.
Shame hides inside the man whose athletic dreams failed to come to fruition and it hides within a young, teen boy who’s questioning his sexuality with no one to talk to. Shame seeps its way into the soul of the man whose business failed or the one who collects unemployment. Men can find shame lurking in the ashes of failed relationships or in broken connections with kids and family members.
It might be easier to only think about shame within a relational context. However, that’s not how shame works. It’s felt outside of the home. We can see its effects in politics and policy. Its aftermath can leave a checklist of symptoms in doctors’ offices or be seen in a pile of empties in a recycling bin. It affects members of the workplace from those just starting to CEOs. This is why GMP is tackling the conversation about men, shame, and vulnerability on all fronts and across sections.
Brown’s research illustrates that the antidote to shame is vulnerability. This, however, creates a painful double-bind for men. Generations of men have been flooded with the idea that vulnerability is a sign of weakness. Any sign of weakness becomes shameful and thus, men are trapped. The cure becomes their poison.
GMP is committed to lifting the curtain on shame and starting a conversation about men and vulnerability. You’re invited to share your thoughts, feelings, stories and experiences with the appropriate editor. GMP prides itself on having the conversation no one else is having and this one is certainly no exception. We look forward to hearing from you.
Business, Dixie Gillaspie: [email protected]
Ethics, Thomas Fiffer: [email protected]
Gender and Sexuality, JJ Vincent: [email protected]
Guyhood, Scott Heydt: [email protected]
Leadership, Dale Vaughn: [email protected]
Marriage and Commitment, Heather Gray: [email protected]
Raising Boys, Aleasa Word: [email protected]
Video Contributions: Mark Greene: [email protected]
Vulnerability is not about fear and grief and disappointment. It is the birthplace of everything we’re hungry for. –Brené Brown