Most of the promises we make don’t reflect real-life love beyond the ceremony. If you could re-write your vows, what would they be?
I read this great article last month on Huffington Post: 10 Honest Marriage Vows You Never Hear at Weddings. I liked this idea…real life vows that make sense in regular, every day, relationships.
Yet, even this list that reflects a more modern relationship didn’t really reflect my own life or my own marriage. We’re childless by choice so promises about kids don’t really make sense for us and money isn’t really one of the things we ever quarrel about. We quarrel about far more pettier things like who gets the remote!
Most of us get that all relationships are different. Promises or vows shouldn’t be one size fits all. Some couples cannot legally marry. Some couples choose not to marry but still want to make promises to one another.
The Good Men Project is starting a conversation about The Promises We Should Be Making.
- What do you think? Are promises and vows even relevant in modern relationships?
- What are the promises we should be making?
- If you could write vows or promises, what would they be?
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The commitments we make speak to our intentions. Our promises become meaningless beyond the ceremony if they are not applicable to the lives we live and the people we share them with.
Commitment starts with a promise. What should we really be promising?