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Moving On and Investing in Yourself
In this podcast, we’ll explore the concept of moving on from a past relationship and the importance of investing in yourself. Often, we find ourselves fixating on our ex-partners’ lives, leading to jealousy and resentment. However, it’s crucial to realize that their story is no longer relevant to us. Instead, we should focus on building our own value and understanding that true value comes from within.
Letting Go of Your Ex
Your ex is their own person with their own life. Wish them well and let them go because their story is not relevant to you anymore.
The Car Rental Analogy
Worrying about what an ex is doing or how well they are doing is like wanting to know how well a car is doing that we already returned. A relationship that ends is like a rental; it wasn’t ours. Acting like it still belongs to us makes us upset when we see it doing well without us.
Low and High-Frequency Behavior
We all sometimes fall into low-frequency thinking, but it’s essential to recognize it. Realize that your value never came from your ex or anyone else; it comes from within. Their life has nothing to do with yours. Placing your value in something external is a losing game.
Investing in Yourself
Warren Buffett said the greatest investment you can make is in yourself. Your value comes from traits like leadership, hard work, creativity, resourcefulness, resilience, and persistence. Your value isn’t tied to a relationship, career, or business; it’s intrinsic.
The Danger of Borrowed Value
Many of us were never taught to build our own value, so we look for it outside ourselves. We borrow value from relationships, careers, or status. This leads to insecurity and fear of losing those things.
Building Your Own Value
We must differentiate between building things of value in our lives and our inherent value. Relationships, careers, and businesses can be built, but our value is always ours. We are the only asset guaranteed to be with us for our entire lives.
The Antidote: Investing in Yourself
Instead of looking for shortcuts to value outside of yourself, focus on investing in yourself. This approach is the antidote to jealousy and obsession over your ex’s life. When you own your value, you can confidently enter any situation, knowing you are enough.
Conclusion: Take Action
Invest in yourself, safeguard your future, and stop borrowing value from external sources. To embark on this journey, consider joining a program or retreat that focuses on self-investment. The choice to build your own value starts with you.
For those interested, you can learn more about the author’s virtual retreat program at MH Virtual Retreat.
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