Better relationships make our life better and easier, whereas if the relationships are not better, then they become a source of trouble. In such a situation, we must try to improve our relationships and fulfil them honestly. But building and maintaining relationships is also an art—if you are not an expert in it, then you have to improve yourself and learn the art of maintaining relationships.
Do you judge people too much?
If yes, then reduce judging a little because the people of those who judge rarely come close. They neither share much nor show their actual personality because they are afraid that we will be judged on everything, every behaviour, an assumption, will be made about us.
It would be better not to form an opinion about someone by one or two incidents or things. Give the benefit of the doubt to the people. This will improve your relationship.
Do you listen less and talk more?
Most people have a habit that they keep their point of view and do not listen to anyone. They shy away from saying anything to such people. Being a good listener is very important to strengthen relationships.
Do you always find faults and shortcomings in others?
Many people have a habit of considering themselves to be perfect and always keep teaching others. When there is a slight mistake, they tell so much that, as if they can never make a mistake… you don’t do a job properly, you shouldn’t have been given this responsibility… when will you learn… Those who survive using such sentences are masters of the art of maintaining relationships.
Do you ever think of doing something special for your loved ones?
Staying in a relationship only routinely will make your relationship boring, if you want to maintain the relationship, then you will have to think and do a little above the routine. Sometimes surprise, sometimes if you are an expert in planning something special, then you know better the art of maintaining relationships.
Do you not shy away from adopting someone’s personality the way they are?
Every person is unique. If we think everyone should be like us, then this is not possible. Some have some shortcomings, some weaknesses and some will also have some unique qualities. If we adopt someone with their personality, then we will be considered an expert in the art of building and maintaining relationships.
Do you support or get away from others’ bad times?
Relationships are meant to be together, but often most people leave together when bad times come or make excuses and they are not there when we need our loved ones the most. If you are also among these people, then your relationship will neither last nor will it be able to last. Even when you are in trouble, you will find yourself alone.
We should stand by our loved ones when they need them the most. That is the genuine happiness of relationships.
Do you not make relationships for selfishness or to get your work done?
Many people nowadays do friendship not only for friendship but also for love and marriage. Relationships are made and broken by looking at money or after seeing profits. If this is your thinking, then you can never build real, right relationships. Meaning that the age of relationships is not long and such people do not even know the art of making and maintaining relationships.
Do not give importance to feelings in relationships and consider other things more important?
If you keep things like money, responsibility, merits, and demerits, etc. above emotions, then you will be defeated. The feeling of love, care and sharing is the most important thing in any relationship. If you have respect for these feelings, then you know the art of building and maintaining relationships.
Are you over-possessive or suspicious in relationships?
It is very important in relationships that the people tied to you should not feel suffocated. If you stop everything, ask too many questions and answer and keep trying to keep the other person tied, then you will lose good relationships. Being suspicious or possessive can be tolerated to a certain extent, but later it weakens the relationship. So learn to trust.
Don’t you respect others?
When people insult their own people to make themselves big on everything, they are not even aware of it. If you are also one of such people, then be careful. In relationships, respect from the youngest to the elders is very important because if you give respect, you will get respect and you will also be able to win their trust.
Don’t you run away from responsibility?
Many people talk a lot about their rights but do not understand the responsibility. Only the art of sharing responsibilities will make you an expert in the art of maintaining relationships. It is important to take everyone along and handle it.
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How to master the art of building and maintaining relationships?
- Be honest, don’t cheat.
- Do not think of taking advantage of money by hiding or lying.
- Learn to trust, but not blindly.
- Don’t be selfish.
- Take care of others wholeheartedly.
- Respect every relationship.
- Avoid anger and humiliation as much as possible.
- Do not run your own, as Hitler, give importance to the opinion of others.
- Do not consider the person in front as a fool or try to make it up.
- Make time for relationships and spend a good time together.
- If there is a problem, find a solution through the conversation, do not get angry, and puff your mouth.
- Give importance to small joys… For happiness in relationships, Bangla-car is unnecessary, but each other’s companionship is necessary.
- Never lose your peace and comfort in pursuing material things.
- Learn to balance both career and home.
- Make some rules, like — every day the family will have dinner together, talk to each other and do not stay on the phone and talk professionally.
- Let’s make something special together on the day of the holiday. Give rest to the people of the house or take them out.
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