Marrying for Money Is Not Wrong

Marrying for money is not what you think

Money isn’t everything. However, the poverty gap displays that when it comes to health, free time, trauma reduction, education, a less stressful union, and education, you are much better off finding someone of a similar income level, or higher, than yourself.

You will have to marry for money. We all tend to need it to have the many benefits that it brings.

We didn’t create this system of haves and have-nots, but it is up to us to improve it. Removing the stigma attached to wanting health and security is one aspect of realizing people seek contentment more than they seek selfish hoarding.

That is, wise people, seek improvement, and why would you marry someone unwise?

When you marry for money, you are looking for the usual things that human beings prefer: better health and healthcare, greater career networks, housing in comfortable areas, and educational opportunities.

That said, if you are strictly marrying with the expectation of someone providing for you financially without the sacrifice of your time, youth, sexuality, beauty, affection, and cultural connections, the union will fail.

Eyes wide open, not wallets that display status

If you choose someone due to their financial success, more power to you. However, it is incumbent upon both partners to choose with eyes wide open and to view the exchange of assets as encompassing far more than just the financial aspects.

Some men often marry younger women. Some women find that until we fix things, a female cannot earn or advance as quickly as he can. Women are also more often accused of being gold diggers, or sugar babies, but this assumes that her contribution, often affection, sexual pleasure, status-enhancing, and stylistic value, is not worth real money, or compensatory support.

A man or a woman, who enters such a relationship has to truly weigh the transaction and never expect there is no value to what the
“supported” partner is providing. Indeed, a 24/7 job often requires more time and attention than a work-week job.

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Couples, compensation, and expectation

Expectations are a dangerous thing in many marriages. Try not to assume any of them. Plan far ahead who will bear and care for the children, if any. Plan out and schedule a task list to see who is responsible for shopping, cleaning, social arrangements, holidays, and cooking.

It’s always best to share, and even provide, a stable financial allowance.

Women should never marry for money. To think it’s good to do so is based on the illusion that if you take care of him in every way, he (usually “he,”) will take care of you financially, even if he is expected to meet every other need.

In the 20th century, this was imagined to work, June Cleaver style. However, wives of those days if given a choice of any luxury, would always choose to have a WIFE.

A wife, then, was expected to provide, nurture, cook, clean, sexually please, keep pearls in place, shop, and never fall off her heels while vacuuming.

In what we call traditional marriage, a woman without choice about family size gave up her financial independence, but certainly not her workload. This is just one reason why so many young people today eschew marriage or one-income households. It is not because there is less work for the homemaker or stay-at-home parent, but because society is now arranged in ways that demand more income.

Men, likewise, should never marry for money, unless their plan is to seed an investment in one another — such as an educational degree, or skill — that you have already agreed upon. The boundaries of this relationship must be stated upfront.

Childbearing too, should be looked upon as a compensated job. It is not only full-time, it is life-threatening. At the very least, a woman who bears a child will never have the same body as she did pre-pregnancy.

When my husband and I looked to the idea of “renting a womb” due to infertility, surgery, and miscarriages, the price of surrogacy rose to up to $100,000 easily, without even counting the daily costs, agency fees, and legal services.

This is proof positive that babies are not just a dream come true, but also a whopping mega-expense that only those with money can truly afford.

Therefore, if you want a guarantee of a child to raise in the hellscape of a resource-hungry, and climate chaos world, you better both be making a crib-load of money.

The world’s marriage to marriage has hit a rough patch

All over the world, gender and sex roles are changing.

Maybe morality police, shaming, marginalizing, and rigidity never works anywhere for long. Many young people are no longer so excited about marriage. They may get excited about the wedding, but that only goes so far.

The ability of women to be independent from the income of men is in flux. The family joining of a wedding has become all about an industry; it is almost never about how to invest thousands of dollars wisely.

Do remember that an engagement ring lasts longer than a wedding, hopefully. If you do spend two months’ salary it better be a wise investment, not a regret. You may want to consider if the cost of rings and weddings is worth more to you than other things. On the other hand, a lifetime of gaming, media, porn, devices, coffee, or any other daily investment will cost as much, if not more, than a ceremony and a ring.

The ring may be the one thing you can pass down for generations.