The Mental Load.
It’s a topic that went viral last year on the internet after French illustrator, Emma, published a cartoon about the topic called, “You Should’ve Asked”. Her contention was that women, largely considered the household managers, are constantly having to think several steps ahead of what the family’s needs are. “The Mental Load means always having to remember,” the cartoon illustrates.
The mother is the one who has to remember to schedule to dentist appointments every six months, then schedule the dentist appointments, tell the school their child will be leaving school early for the dentist appointment, and then take the child to the dentist appointment. Thus, the mental load of one such task ends up being much more of a mental load than just the actual task of taking the child to the dentist appointment.
The idea took hold and many articles were written about it in the media and some of them are resurfacing with a vengeance:
There are dozens of articles on the topic, but we at The Good Men Project want to know your take, as a husband and/or father!
How much of the so-called Mental Load do you bear personally? Have you ever used the phrase, “You should’ve asked” with your spouse or partner? Do you have any tips and tricks for helping to remember all of the various birthday gifts, permission slips, appointments, parent-teacher conferences, and sleepovers?
We want to hear from you! Share your own experience with the Mental Load in your family and how you share the burden.
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