Recently I have been seeing a ton of wah-wah posts coming through on social platforms and even some emails that I have gotten.
So many people full of pain, fear, anxiety, loneliness and lack of grit for life. I get it, I go through spurts of these feelings too where all I truly want to do is crash on the couch, watch some Netflix and kick back a glass of wine or a bottle. It happens.
These sentiments that I have been seeing however got me thinking about a mentor that I had back in my twenties. She would always say, “The bottom line is…” as she made a clear point about the direction of something.
The clear point here is how so often we humans avoid being that bottom line, that clear point in our own lives and instead we choose to point fingers and feel sorry for ourselves as if all that sorry and pity will shift our vibration into having what we truly desire in life.
LOL!!!Yeah that’s pretty damn funny.
So, what if you made a conscious decision to be the bottom line of your life?
To take full responsibility for everything that happens, to praise everyone around you, and to blame no one. This simple formula is as reliable as setting a compass — trust its direction, and it always guides you true north.
When you choose to be the bottom line, you claim the power to shape your own destiny. You stop waiting for external validation and take charge of your own happiness. This mindset shift is transformative. It allows you to see yourself as the creator of your reality, rather than a passive participant.
Praise instead of blame is powerful!
Praising others is a powerful practice. It cultivates a positive environment and builds strong relationships. When you make it a habit to acknowledge and appreciate the efforts and achievements of those around you, you create a ripple effect of positivity. People feel valued and motivated, and this, in turn, enriches your own life.
Consider how you feel when someone praises you genuinely. It boosts your confidence and encourages you to keep striving for excellence. By spreading praise, you not only uplift others but also reinforce a culture of mutual respect and encouragement.
Blaming others is an easy escape from taking responsibility. It might provide temporary relief from guilt or failure, but it ultimately hinders personal growth. When you blame others, you give away your power to change the situation. You become dependent on external factors, losing control over your own life.
Imagine a life where you blame no one — not your family, friends, coworkers, or circumstances. This doesn’t mean ignoring mistakes or wrongdoings; it means addressing them constructively and moving forward. By refusing to blame, you focus on solutions rather than problems, fostering a proactive and empowered mindset.
Many people prefer to outsource responsibility. They want someone else to be the bottom line in their lives so they have someone to first praise when things go well, and then blame when things go wrong. This avoidance of responsibility is like asking someone else to eat your meals for you because chewing and digesting are too much work.
Outsourcing responsibility might seem convenient, but it comes at a high cost. It weakens your ability to make decisions and diminishes your sense of agency. You become reliant on others for validation and direction, losing touch with your own intuition and desires.
Embracing responsibility is synonymous with embracing power and freedom. When you take full ownership of your life, you gain the power to influence your circumstances and the freedom to choose your path. Responsibility is not a burden; it is the key to unlocking your true potential.
Think about it: every decision you make shapes your future. When you accept this, you become more mindful and deliberate in your actions. You understand that you are the architect of your life, capable of creating the reality you desire.
Where are you outsourcing your responsibility? Your happiness? Your goals? Your anything?
Time to get real about who or what is the bottom line that you are allowing in your life is and realize that those stinking thinking thoughts you are supporting by speaking them out loud and taking sabotaging action based on them are the bottom line that will never get you what you want.
As always loving you from here,
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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