Sometimes we make big life decisions when we were young that perhaps we regret when we are older. Often these decisions were based on creating a life that we hope others will approve of, and sometimes we don’t see this until we are fifteen to twenty years into living out the ramifications of our decisions. It is not uncommon for one to wake up one day and realize they have been living their lives moving from goal post to goal post, or street lamp to street lamp; spending our days living out choices we made because of the influence of the group.
How do you know whether or not you made a big decision like this? Look back for a moment and ask yourself, did I choose a path for my life that caused my mood to contract, did I have to shut down to a significant degree in order to live out this choice? In essence did this choice conflict with who you are as a person?
If you believe this is so, you should consider following a few of these steps:
You have to begin by looking forward to your next chapter, and realize gratitude for the fact that you are right here in this very moment ready to create a new perspective for the next chapter of your life.
Closing your eyes, take in that gratitude for the duration of three full belly breath cycles.
Then ask yourself, why did I make this major life decision? Perhaps it was a marriage, a move across the country, or choosing a soul-crushing career.
Once you are able to tune into that mindset of the young person who made that decision you will be able to understand, and understanding is compassion. For three deep belly breath cycles feel that sense of compassion for the self many years ago who made that choice. You must follow this process in order to move forward into the next stage of reshaping your experience.
Harboring weight and resentment will never allow you to move forward and completely revolutionize your perspective on life.