When we were expecting our first child we were excited and didn’t care either way if we were having a boy or a girl, as long as the baby was healthy.
In the back of my mind I pictured two kids, a boy being the first followed a few years later by his little sister. Well, our first ended up being a girl and we were over the moon. Sometime later we were expecting our second child. This time my husband really wanted a boy. We had another girl.
Now with our two daughters, our family is complete. Almost immediately after our second daughter was born though we were asked when we were having our third. When telling people we weren’t planning for more we would constantly get well aren’t you going to try for a boy?
There is this notion that the perfect family is a boy, a girl, and a golden retriever. That when you have multiple children of the same gender you need to keep trying until you get that baby boy or baby girl. As if having kids of both genders will make your life fulfilled.
I personally know someone who kept trying for a baby girl. She had six sons. Biology doesn’t follow societal norms. My husband has gotten the don’t you want someone to watch and play sports with or talk about cars? He, of course, points out that his daughters can also play and watch sports and have an interest in cars.
Not every family is the same. There are plenty of families with only one child or all boys or all girls aside from the picture perfect boy-girl combo. There is no right family formula to a happy and complete family. The perfect family formula is the one you and your partner(if you have one) decide is right for you.
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