The Point Of No Return

I am sure you have seen the romantic movies where the female lead is broken-hearted and then plots to get her man back. She and her girlfriends devise a fool-proof plan on how to win his heart back. All that needs to happen is for him to realize how good they were together in order for their love to rekindle. Like a fairy-tale come true she wins his heart back and they live happily ever after.

Now let’s get to reality. When you walk away from a good woman who loved you, she will be heartbroken. You made a choice to walk away and leave her. You chose to no longer love her anymore. So how does a woman respond to this pain in reality?

Release

She will feel like her world as she knows it is coming to an end. This woman may even forget how to eat, breathe, and sleep properly. Her eyes are swollen from countless tears and when she feels like she has finally cried it all out, she cries more. That is what heartbreak does. Heartbreak feels like it will never not hurt again. She forgets she has been in the same clothes for days until her girlfriends force her out of the house. She seeks out support and that support is not from you because you abandoned her. A good woman finds her strength in those that love her. She will not lash out at you or try to destroy you because she is a good woman.

Repair

A good woman finds her inner strength and allows this heartache to teach her something. Once her heart no longer feels like it is in a million pieces, she begins to find her strength. She not only learns to walk again, without you, she is standing taller than ever before. It is not about repairing her heart; her goal is to be better than ever before. Without you.

Rebuild

This woman you decided to discard will discover her worth was never in your hands. She remembers what she brings to the table and that you chose not to step up. With each passing day, she becomes stronger because she is resilient. This is not the first time she has had to rebuild herself. A good woman will rise, and you will see her light shine brighter than ever before. She will become better, not bitter.

Reset

She will wipe you from her story. With each passing day, she continues to let go of the love she felt. Letting go becomes her priority. Some days are easier than others, but she is healing. You will become a mere chapter in a book which is now over. She turns the page and she moves on. Once she is determined to get over you, she does so completely. This is the point of no return. This is typically the time when you realize you are losing a good woman. However, you have already lost her.

Moving on

A good woman then finds the strength to go out again. She gets noticed by others because her light is shining brighter than ever and is unable to be dimmed. She eventually, meets someone new and discovers the love she deserved all along. This good woman is appreciated for all her efforts to be the good and strong woman she has become (and really always was). Thanks to you she is experiencing an emotionally responsible relationship.

So, before you decide to lose a good woman please understand she will recover from the relationship before you even begin to grieve it. A good woman will not play games and try to win you back. When you have lost a good woman, she will find her inner strength as she simply walks away and moves on. By the time you realize what you have lost it will be too late. That is your choice, and the choice to become stronger from the relationship and move on is hers.

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This post is republished on Medium.

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