This One Quick Source of Information Is Ruining the Dating Market

We are in a weird era of dating.

Everyone wants to do it, but at the same time, we are all skeptical and afraid to get hurt.

Your experiences shape your perception, but we are moving into an era where no one wants to learn from experience anymore.

We look to live in a perfect world with a specific design for us and our needs.

I have bad news; the dating market doesn’t work that way.

It is a good thing that it does not work that way.

Your experiences are life lessons that teach you about boundaries, needs, and the simple do’s and don’ts of dating.

As we moved into a new era, I noticed something intended to have a positive goal but has made people more divided than ever.

Everyone is getting their Youtube education dating advice doctorates.

The good the bad and the ugly

I don’t want you to take my message and think I don’t believe in finding good information through different sources on Youtube.

Here is what has occurred though

Men and women are learning about the core of female and male nature as it applies to dating and human interaction.
You are learning about red fags to look out for as you navigate the dating market.
People are sharing relatable experiences that help you move to understand improvements to make in the future.

The flip side of that

People don’t use the knowledge they retain to understand the other side but use it as a tool to have a negative view.
The first sign that someone is not perfect becomes a reason to flee.
Relatable experiences are turning into “everyone being the same.”

Use case

The intended use of the platforms was to bring awareness to what is polluting the dating market, but instead, it has divided men and women.

The “red pill society” was intended to wake men up and make them realize that the starting point to success is to find your purpose and execute it so well that it attracts women.

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Understanding female nature is acknowledging that hypergamy does exist, and as a man, it is your responsibility to become the best version of yourself.

Women were supposed to learn and observe the qualities of a high-quality man and understand when they meet someone mature, with values that serve a long-term future.

“Settling” has become a negative term because prince charming, who checks off fifty qualities you dream of, is out there.

Science class

There is a truth to it, but it is now become a list of negatives.

At a base level, biologically speaking, men and women desire different things. They should.

Women seek safety and security, and men want the most fit and nurturing partner for their offspring.

You can spin it any way you want when you add salary, height, mental health, looks, weight, and personality. At a base, it boils down to those two pillars above.

We have pinned the two sides against each other instead of searching for the middle ground and how you navigate the objective of the other.

Now, we present the other side as greedy or immoral for desiring their biological instincts.

Simply put, it’s f*cking weird.

Centerline

People are interacting less as social interactions have become more tense. Dating apps are the devil. Others have accepted the destiny of “being alone forever” at the age of twenty-eight.

Calm down.

We have mixed traditional and modern values and tried to make a recipe for how people should navigate the dating market today.

It is turning into a mess.

You can use lessons from both eras to understand how your behaviors and desires fit into today’s world.

What you can’t do is expect someone to have the same view as you. It does not work in today’s dating market.

Meeting in the middle is to know the difference without making demands as you move through the dating world.

Lock in

I urge you to read books, articles, and, yes, Youtube and visual platforms to learn more about dating.

The messages on these platforms are not gospel but guidance to understand how the other side operates, how they think, and the feelings and logic they navigate the world.

Take it with a grain of salt instead of casting that view on every man or woman you meet in the future.

I’ve seen too much of it.

There are good people out there. Relax.

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