It’s another winter season over here. Some would argue it’s the best time to think deeply and revert to wrong decisions made in the past because of the chill sent through the spine.
But who’s to say bad decisions can’t be corrected in every season?.. not me!
If you are reading this right now, you are either in your young, prime, or golden years.
This is to say that, just like me:
You are either experiencing a thousand emotions and thoughts stumbling upon one another, or you’re way past thirty and have it all figured out.
Now! That might be a shuttle launched to crash.
It’s one of the views surrounding the three years before and after 30.
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Finding yourself before and after 30
Can we ever truly know who we are?
Indeed, some folks might not be able to figure it out before 30, but a general view of life proposes that most people have gotten the thread through a needle at that point.
The thought of a middle-aged man without a career seems unforming, but it does happen.
More than curve balls, life throws wrecking balls that smash the dreams and goals of some people. Sometimes get them to a significant halt in all endeavors.
But such cases are different from the views of self-realization before 30. BBC’s 100 Years segment reveals much truth surrounding the need for self-realization at any age.
Meanwhile, you can not deny that it gets intense three years before and after 30.
- When a couple of your friends are deep into their life goals while you still struggle with completing your daily tasks.
- When you don’t want to meet new people because you see yourself as a late bloomer in all aspects of life.
No one grows fixed as a child!
Far from being fixed in childhood or around 30 — as experts thought for years — our personalities seem fluid and malleable. — Zaria Gorvett
This shows there are no timelines to self-realization, discovery, and finding one’s self.
- It’s not crazy to be 40 and still feel bad for not knowing who you are.
- It’s not absurd to still struggles with a career choice three years after 30.
- It’s not unusual to be lost just before you become 30.
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Dating/marriage before and after 30
The sound of a wedding bell is meant to infuse happiness and a rare joy in people. Sadly, it’s accompanied by a relatively unrecognized pain for folks above 30… not everyone!
While marriage is often seen as essential in a successful life, the Pew Research Center reports that only about half of Americans over 18 are married.
Even more so, the stats continue to decrease. This means more people are denouncing the need to let love lead to marriage at a much younger age.
The fear of not finding oneself is a strong motive for refusal in many people, while others are dead scared of financial walls.
But just like every other life endeavor, a timely consciousness erupts three years before and after thirty;
- You suddenly feel bad for not being as lucky enough to have had one healthy relationship.
- You feel scared as every friendly wedding date arrives.
- You imagine that you just might be able to control the toxic love you are considering exiting.
Truly!
Some folks can be courageous and make timely decisions: earning a degree before 20, working towards a career at 25, getting married right before 30, and being financially free before 40.
Oh! And this can get in your head when you are at the sensitive tip of all age brackets. But you need not worry, especially if you are close to being 30 or just above 30.
Life doesn’t end here.
- There are a thousand and one people who lived their 20s recklessly and still succeeded at 40.
- Many people are in their 30s without the ability to start a retirement plan.
- A thousand more people have been open to genuine love for years before being 30 but haven’t yet gotten lucky.
They’ll always be a before and after 40, 50, 60, and 70. It’s only a pressure point. Don’t get lost here. Smile through your 30s, 40s, and beyond.
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Thank you so much for reading my article today. My gratitude towards you knows no bounds. I will be publishing another article very soon.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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