Wake Up and Look Inside

Life has taught me that what I say about others is linked to what I think of myself. When we talk about other people’s flaws, we are reflecting our own shortcomings onto others. We should be careful about this, since whenever we refer to someone, we are actually talking about ourselves.

The truth is that looking inward hurts, and that is undeniable. So much so that we don’t usually talk about our own flaws, even to ourselves. It must be precisely for this reason that we insist on wasting time criticizing others instead of taking the time to improve ourselves. It happens that this pain is necessary and should not be used to block us and prevent our inner evolution.

We must understand, once and for all, that while we are focused on other people’s lives, we lose our own focus. And in this process of defending ourselves from our own gaze, while we are malicious in judging and condemning those around us, we forget that there is nothing, absolutely nothing, we can do to change the other person. We only have the power to change who we are. Only I have the power to change myself, and only you are capable of changing yourself. And, by the way: what power!

Most people change, but very few people truly evolve. It takes a lot of flexibility and a long and painful process of introspection and deconstruction to be able to rise from the ashes and rebuild oneself. Whoever manages to go into this fire headfirst and come out whole, learns the true meaning of life and leaves this world being even much better than when they arrived.

Whenever we choose to spend our days looking at life through the window, we stop looking inside ourselves. We will then end up worrying more about the lives of others than about our own. And finally, we will leave the reins of our existence thrown somewhere, while we occupy our hands with whips, in a frustrated attempt to mold the life of the other while we forget our own. And that is exactly what we do when we stop looking inward and start to give more importance to what surrounds us, we end up falling asleep instead of waking up. My evolution belongs only to me, and that is why it is useless to get annoyed or spend my life criticizing other people.

Whoever is willing to feel the pain of seeing themselves as they are, will have as a reward the love for themselves precisely for having learned to see themselves exactly as they are. And as a bonus, they will also learn the true meaning of the word empathy, as they will know how to deal with other people’s flaws with the same sweetness they would like their own to be dealt with.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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