Is it you or is it your spouse or a combination of both people? What they said versus what I heard is an important concept when understanding marital issues and how to solve them. Is it your spouse? Is it your mental programming? Better yet, what if it’s a combination of both?
Did you know we filter everything we hear from someone else based on our mental programming? Sometimes the way we process comments that our spouse says to us as being mean-spirited, controlling, and manipulative. Because we weren’t raised to understand our self-worth based on being not doing, we tend to think what we do for others determines our value and nothing else does. This concept is overlooked-usually not even considered.
Let’s begin with understanding what programming you are currently running on. Once we begin to understand the programming we understand why we filter their comments in specific ways. Also, once we understand our programming we can begin to hear them correctly for the first time. In a marriage, your programming is clashing with the other person’s programming.
Do you want to understand your programming? Do you want to begin to understand your spouse’s programming? I work with couples to reveal the true reasons why the marriage is not working and how to truly understand one another.
At the very least, working with me takes out the guesswork and regret, and at the best, the marriage is better than it ever has been, you’re understanding one another, and connecting mentally and emotionally. I work with couples and one on one to create the safest environment to explore one’s programming.
Schedule your first session online at the link on my website: https://www.ashleyberges.com/coaching-sessions
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