We all know the drill: you match with someone on a dating app, you start chatting, and things seem to be going well. You exchange numbers and plan to meet up. But then, when you finally meet in person, things just don’t quite click.
She’s nothing like her profile said she would be! Maybe she seems shy, or maybe she’s just not as interesting as she seemed online. Whatever the case may be, you can’t help but feel disappointed.
There’s no need to despair, though. Just because your date isn’t love at first sight doesn’t mean that there’s no hope for a connection. Sometimes it takes a little time to get to know someone before you can really tell if there’s a spark but this is nothing to be disappointed about.
For example, a profile bio might mention “love to read books” but when you meet them IRL, the last book they read was 5 years ago. False marketing, but it’s okay.
However, it’s understandable to feel a little disappointed at first. But don’t worry, there’s still a chance that you’ll hit it off. After all, love is more than skin deep. So give her a chance to show you who she really is. Chances are, she’s just as nervous as you are. And who knows? You might end up falling for her in spite of (or because of) her imperfections.
There are ways to salvage the situation.
First, take a deep breath and remind yourself that everyone puts their best foot forward online.
Second, people change with time. It also goes with looks and style and trends etc. so don’t be surprised if that is the case.
Third, be nice and do your part to be genuine and truthful about how you feel after meeting someone without misleading the other person during this date.
Make them feel comfortable.
There’s no need to play games when you’re dating someone. It’s better to be genuine and honest about your intentions from the start. That way, you can gauge whether or not the other person is on the same page as you. If you’re looking for love, tell them!
There’s no shame in admitting that you’re looking for a serious relationship. And if you’re just looking to date casually, be upfront about that too. The most important thing is, to be honest with yourself and the other person. From there, everything else will fall into place.
So next time you go on a date, remember to be nice and do your part to be genuine and truthful. It’ll make for a much more enjoyable experience for everyone involved.
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