Why Single Women Stop Responding to Men on a Dating App

Modern dating has gotten so bad that it makes women choose to freeze their eggs rather than settle down with the wrong guy.

A girl I talked to recently told me she doesn’t want to be on dating Apps because there are too many dishonest men.

Some of them pretend like they’re single but if you truly track down his profile on the internet, he’s a married man with 2 kids.

Ouch. What a waste of time.

And those women who still have profiles on dating Apps, barely open it. But that’s just one of the other reasons why women might stop responding to your message.

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Sending a “hi” isn’t enough

It’s no secret that women get more messages on dating apps than men. They get way more matches too from the get-go.

I once was on Bumble with my no-face picture posted, and I still got matches. But as you can already tell, most of them are just “hey/hi”.

It’s safe to conclude that women swipe left so fast as soon as they see something that they don’t like in a man’s profile, while men tend to give more chances.

It’s the “let’s just say “hi” and see what happens” type of approach.

You can call a woman picky for swiping left all the time but men who send a “hi” 10 times in a row to 10 different women aren’t better either.

If you want a decent response, you need to send more than just a “hi”.

She probably got 50s other “hi”s before you so you don’t want to be part of those unread messages.

The best thing to do is to learn her profile and ask questions according to it. One time there was a guy who started his message by asking, “How’s your yoga session this morning?” because I put yoga in my bio.

When you care enough to spend at least 2 minutes to read through her profile and look beyond her physical appearance, you’ll win her best response.

No proper bio or picture

“Many men on dating apps don’t realize this because they never think it’s a big deal”

You can’t expect a woman to have a decent conversation with you if you stay anonymous.

It’s actually frustrating.

It doesn’t matter how much fun you’re having in person but on a dating app, first impression matters a lot.

Every time I write articles about online dating, there’s at least one woman who will comment they don’t swipe right back simply because the man has no bio or picture.

Many men on dating apps don’t realize this because they never think it’s a big deal.

You don’t have to do a photoshoot or write a long paragraph about who you’re but just doing the bare minimum will get you far.

Most dating apps will let you curate your profile and fill in your interests so easily that all you need to do is pick and choose.

And if you’re on Instagram, you can always connect your profile in a second.

Another thing about a dating app’s picture is you need to make sure it’s up to date.

You don’t want to put one that’s 10 years old that looks completely different than what you look like now.

Bad dating experience = very limited chances for new people

When you’re on a dating app long enough, it’s easy to think that everyone’s just going to waste your time.

Most women think this way too.

And it’s not a surprise that they sign up to Tinder before they were even ready to be in a new relationship again.

It seems unfair for any man who is genuinely interested in them but sometimes it is what it is.

So now not only they don’t want to open their heart to a new man, they don’t even respond to their messages. She feels like she doesn’t have many chances left to gift.

That’s why dating someone who got their heart broken before is a lot harder because now you have to prove to her that you’re different.

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“Why not just stick around and try everything you can to make it work?”

Idon’t blame women for hating modern dating. Although this happens to men too. If it’s not the hookup culture, it’s the unrealistic expectations that people have — it reduces their chance of actually meeting the right person.

But wait a second.

They might have met the right person but they just don’t give them a chance.

They don’t want to get their heart broken again. They don’t want to deal with the long healing process after being betrayed.

However, blaming and complaining about how sucks dating is won’t help you in any way.

Doing so also means you’re just stuck in between not happy with your single life yet not you also don’t want to trust someone new again.

Regrets will always be there whether we like it or not. Because we, human, makes mistake.

But I also believe you could minimize the number of regrets you have by giving a chance to something that arent’ guaranteed.

Promises are overrated.

Why not just stick around and try everything you can to make it work? Even if it doesn’t — at least you’ve tried your freaking best.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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