JJ Vincent asked a 32-year-old about gender, identity, self-expression, and what defines a man.
R, 32, is married with children. He’s a mechanic and truck driver and adores his family. I caught him before he was about to spend a few very cold hours under a truck. I am happy to report he is alive and warm. I hope that the truck is, too.
A: Well, I see gender as being separate from a person’s sex, so: The association of an individual to a selected role or roles of expected behaviors as found in societal groups.
Q: How would you identify your own gender?
A: Fairly mixed…and it varies depending on the situation that I’m in, or even just mood.
Q: What do you think makes someone a man?
A: A level of self-respect and responsibility normally found in an adult male who has gained a certain level of life experience.
Q: There’s a lot of current discussion about children being raised without gender. If you had care of a very young child, how would you approached gendered issues (toys, clothing, activities)?
Q: Do you think topics of gender identity and expression should be discussed in schools? Why/why not?
A: I think yes. If nothing else, the topic should be at least known to a new generation so they can have an unbiased viewpoint to consider .
Q. A question about relationships. If a person identifies themselves outside of the traditional M/F, should this be an early topic of conversation? Should it be a topic at all?
Q. What significant differences, if any, do you see in gender expectations for men and women, especially in the workplace?
Q: There’s been controversy over the term “metrosexual”, people calling it the “feminization” of men. How would you respond to that?
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