It may “seem” funny on the comedy stage to poke fun at, (and I do comedy in my work too, so I know about making important statements that also create laughter,) but in reality, some of it can be divisive and damaging, while spreading like a virus.
It’s enough already.
Granted, we live in a world with billions of people, so yes, we’re always going to have our share of “idiots” and “nutjobs” who match the stereotypes on both sides of the fence, (it makes for interesting stories), but it doesn’t mean that EVERYONE is like this or that we should tolerate it in our lives.
A lot of what manifests in the external is us projecting our own internal fears of intimacy, lack of self worth, trying to control someone else, or having outrageous expectations from other people ultimately expecting the sh*t to hit the fan and guess what?
It usually does.
A GREAT jumping off point would be to understand that it’s NOT about women vs men or vice versa, it’s really about EACH of us LOOKING INTO OUR OWN HEARTS to see who we are, who we want to be, and what stands in the way.
Meaning that what we’re really looking for is men and women coming together to Wake up, Evolve, Love, and LIVE the TRUTH of who we REALLY are, and cut bait on any of the limited and harmful ways of being that have been tossed around as “normal” for centuries.
If that sounds airy fairy or fluffy, you might want to look at that, because love and compassion is TRUE POWER and an indicator of STRENGTH.
Ultimately we ALL get to decide who we want to be and what is acceptable to us in our lives.
Without going into a whole spiritual manifesto or sermon of why people are the way they are and act the way they do, (i.e. which can stem from beliefs, experiences, programming, traumas, abuse, fears, etc…) this post is meant to start a conversation, to open our eyes and hearts, and add in my life experiences and truths that come through my personal lens of 20 years of doing the deep internal work which is ALWAYS still in progress.
My intention is that this will spray some fresh water on the battle fires and turn them into light to infuse the Soul instead of constant conflict among the two wild, beautiful, crazy, imperfect humans called men and women.
Wild because I DO believe that inside we are MEANT to BE WILD and FREE, and to feel FULLY ALIVE, even with all the emotional storms that may be going on inside us.
I live in a part of the world where “conscious men and women” are more common than not, so sometimes I forget that in many parts of the world, men and women haven’t experienced this way of being or having exposure to true role models of how it CAN be vs how it HAS been.
My personal definition and experience of being a Conscious, Awakened, Evolved Man, and YES we DO exist…
We’re not afraid to show our feelings or sensitivity.
We listen with full presence.
We have compassion and big hearts.
We LOVE to COMMUNICATE and EXPRESS OURSELVES. (Yeah I know, but it’s freaking true.)
We are TOTALLY cool being vulnerable, real, raw, and open, we see this as STRENGTH, not weakness. *(To me, being closed off and repressing your feelings is Macho bullsh*t).
We have NO problem saying “I love you” to our woman, family, AND guy friends. And meaning it.
We LOVE being a man and feeling IN our POWERFUL masculine energy while adoring our partner with everything we have, (we love you that much that we want to give the world to you).
We live for purpose and mission and NOT just chasing the emptiness of success and money, (although many of us are still VERY successful because we DO what we LOVE.)
We do our best to exude passion, courage, presence, and strength EVEN when all hell breaks loose.
We have our fears, concerns, worries, and aren’t by any means perfect, and we know that we don’t have to be, especially while we’re still wearing a human suit.
We choose to just BE ourselves and not have to be concerned with having to hide our truth for fear of loss, shame, embarrassment etc.
We see ALL of life and ALL Beings as Sacred.
We see women (the Divine Feminine) as the Miracles that they are, beautiful Beings that light up the world and bring the best expression of what’s possible for humanity.
The Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine
One of the BIG reasons that things don’t work in the world fully, and in far too many relationships in my opinion, is that even though we’re ALL different and unique in our own ways, there are certain tendencies that are built into our spiritual DNA and CORE ESSENCE that need to be understood and highlighted for each of us to feel in our power and in our flow individually and together.
This is not an extensive list, it’s a general foundation of wisdom that comes from Evolved people having Evolved lives AND relationships that has been written about in many books, and when applied, in my personal experience, works in awesome and mysterious ways that makes us happier, more fulfilled, and help us thrive individually and collectively.
On a side note, it is said that about 90% of women and 90% of men have these internal desires (see below) at their core whether they fully get it consciously or not, it’s what ignites our internal power, our love, and our passion for each other.
Bring these understandings into your life and relationships, and you will definitely see some BIG changes, especially if you want true lasting love, OVER THE TOP passion, romance, and relationships that are EPIC.
Meaning, men do this for your woman, and women, do this for your man, BE CONSCIOUS, loving, patient, adoring, and PRESENT and things will transform before your very eyes.
What Lights UP The Divine Feminine’s Heart:
To be seen, heard, and adored.
To express her feelings without fear of being judged or attempted to be fixed, just to be listened to with presence and compassion.
To be claimed by her man.
To be appreciated.
To be honored and respected.
To feel attractive, beautiful, and wanted by her man.
To feel like the BEST thing in his world.
To feel loved EVERY DAY.
To feel safe, free, and protected so she may do what she does best, RADIATE LOVE from her beautiful, gorgeous heart and Soul. (She can literally heal the world with her love that’s how powerful it is.)
To have FUN and PLAY and LAUGH.
What Lights UP The Divine Masculine’s Heart:
To be on purpose and have a mission.
To be fully supported, heard, and SEEN by his woman.
To feel desired and sexy, (yeah I said it.)
To give to and love his woman with all his heart.
To feel important and needed.
To protect his woman and family with his strength and Divine Power.
To have his freedom to BE fully himself without being controlled, with no mask and no BS.
To have FUN and PLAY and LAUGH. (yeah it’s mandatory for both of us.)
The truth is there are a lot of people in the world who are embracing a more conscious, evolved way of loving and being in their lives, you just wouldn’t know it from watching the media, but that’s another story.
I have women ask me all the time, why aren’t there more guys like you? Are there more guys like you? And if yes, how do we find ‘em?
The short answer is that we DO exist, it may not be the norm YET, so part of my job is to be a catalyst to help spark that inner fire among men (and women) to make a conscious effort to STEP UP and live in a NEW and CONSCIOUS way.
To step on the path led by the heart.
To take a risk and to LOVE and BE LOVED in a different way, it may feel scary to be so heart exposed, but it’s MAGIC, and totally worth the risk.
Yes there’s still a lot of primitive behavior that runs amuck in the world.
And it sucks.
What I know for sure is that EVERY one of us has UNTAPPED parts within us, and once we wake up and remember who we REALLY are, and understand that LOVE is a VERB, LOVE is what we’re created from, and LOVE is the ONLY way to truly make lasting change, then that can and will heal ourselves, our relationships, and the world.
We will soon be able to see with NEW spiritual eyes…
Knowing that WISDOM is ALWAYS calling us with her higher vision.
Knowing that it’s OK to have mixed emotions and feelings inside even when we’re trying to grow and evolve, it’s part of being human.
Knowing that we ALL have healing to do inside the secret places within our hearts to become who we are DESTINED to BE, and it’s OK.
My call to action is this…
Take a RISK.
Open your heart.
Stand in your power.
Decide who you want to be and what ignites your heart, then GO FOR IT.
Be the CHANGE.
Be the EXAMPLE.
Be the DIFFERENCE MAKER.
Get SPIRITUALLY NAKED and stand FREE.
And let’s flood the world and our lives with what we CRAVE and NEED most…
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