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I have found there’s a universal irony in how everything comes when you realize you don’t need anything, and that everything you want to happen certainly will, but only after you step down from playing the role of “Director of the Universe,” where everything must be forced into existence.
Let go of the anxious desire of always needing to know what happens next, and the next time your mind begins to speak its fantastical tales involving imminent danger, failure, mistakes, and destruction, decide to embrace the unknown and find peace instead of falling backwards into old patterns of fear. It’s about learning to trust this space between no longer, and not there “yet” without paralyzingly fearing it.
Regardless of situations or what’s happening around you, you have the ability to decide how life will affect you. You can RELAX into it, trust and flow, or incessantly WORRY. The choice is always yours.
Whenever you find yourself becoming overwhelmed, return to surrender, but not surrendering in a traditional sense. The meaning of surrender is oftentimes misinterpreted. It’s not that you are surrendering to anything outside yourself, but rather surrendering TO YOURSELF, as an observer, to witness all the illusions you no longer need crumble away as you release all the attachment to needing to know what the future holds, what it may bring, and all your “fixed ideas” of what your life’s supposed to look like. Once you release all the ideas of how you believe life “should be,” you actually begin to enjoy life as it is. Life doesn’t turn out the way it “should.” Life doesn’t turn out the way it “shouldn’t.” Life turns out the way it does.
The fact of the matter is, to make new and better, more aligned choices you have to get in touch with your soul, and this means you must sort through what you believe about yourself and then discard any of those systems holding you back and make you feel small. You must find a way to do this or watch as the life you know you so desperately want and deserve…fades away.
If you continue to do the same things over and over again, but expecting different results, well that my friends is what’s called INSANITY. That’s like digging around in the same old pile of dog shit for years hoping that one day you’ll unearth buried treasure. The treasure you seek is not found in repeatedly doing the same things over again. You never found joy there before and you will definitely won’t find any joy there now either.
It’s okay to look like a total fool sometimes. To get what different results in your life you’ll have to leave what’s comfortable behind and take risks. The growth you seek requires you to abandon the familiar safety net just long enough to learn something new.
Oftentimes, the true manifestation of your deepest desires carries with it the requirements to push beyond fear, take risks and trusting in the process of letting go of what you have now in order to bring about what you truly desire for your life later.
Don’t be afraid, embrace the truth in the fact you have undergone an intense inner transformation, altering you in such ways preventing you from ever falling backward into past patterns or the person you once were. You needn’t run from the past in order to become something better. You cannot LOSE yourself. The truth of who you are always lives within you. You feel lost only because you believe you’re supposed to know where you’re going, thus forgetting the truth of who YOU ARE: The Creator of Your Reality.
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