Forget the stereotypes; men are looking for love.
Love. Believe it or not, single men want love just as much as women do. Even though it may be hard to believe, men want true love just as much as women.
It’s just that single men and women have VERY different ways of falling in love.
Single women, they’ve been TRAINED to look for love. From their childhoods when their moms and aunts taught them that getting married and getting a good job were to be their main goals, but that getting married was their birthright. The “training” continued when the girls became teens and they began thinking about baby names and wedding colors at the age of sixteen. By the time a single woman is 22, her training is complete, and she’s essentially an NFL First Round Draft Pick. Seriously. You know what a woman in love really is? Peyton Manning on his opponents 1st and Goal. Against the Patriots. You know what a married woman is? Peyton Manning with a Super Bowl Ring. That’s how intense it is for women when it comes to love. It’s bloodsport…it’s combat.
Single men, admittedly, do think of marriage and children when they are younger, too. And, a strong, love-filled union is what they really want. But, due to cultural differences, most men aren’t raised to daydream about the color schemes at their wedding. Most men have been trained to think and worry about our careers and keeping our loved ones and families safe. Once again, single men want love too. It’s just that they haven’t been programmed and trained in their youth to make love happen.
Men know this. Which is why many men don’t appear to want love as much as women do. That’s why single men date women and go to bars and clubs and get wild; it’s popularly known as “sowing oats”. Or, men being “playas”. In actuality, that’s not the case. At all. What’s going on is that MEN KNOW LOVE JUST HAPPENS. Single men know that no matter how many strip clubs they go to, no matter how many one night stands they may have, single men know LOVE HAPPENS. Single men aren’t worried about finding love. That’s the key difference between men and women. There are single men who do look for love. But most single men don’t.
Most single men are OK with the title of “Single Man”. They’ve got no problem with it. But…some women wince at the title of “single” woman. To many women, that description is a cause for pain. They look at being a single woman as failing. Some women, despite their careers and other parts of their lives going well, if they aren’t’ attached in some way romantically, they don’t even feel whole.
Single men, on the other hand, as long as they have a good job, good friends, and a membership at a nice gym, are mostly fine being single. Once again, it’s not that they don’t think about love when they have their “booty calls”. It’s not that single men don’t think about love as they chat up some new, tanned, buxom beauty at their favorite bar.
What single men are doing is enjoying their road to love. A Single man’s ultimate destination is love. To settle down. But, unlike women, single men aren’t’ taught to sprint down the road of love like their lives depend on it. Single women are.
Originally appeared at Examiner.com