It may take time, but you can work through your differences.
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This comment was by Rosemary in reference to the post – I Screwed Up. Will She Every Forget?
There are some people who hold grudges forever, and no matter what you do, relationships with those people will never get better. As you say, move on. But in some cases, I think people expect forgiveness too soon, especially if the injury is a huge one, or if they haven’t really made amends.
Buying the wrong brand of shampoo is a tiny injury (unless you do it passive-aggressively every time you shop) and should be forgiven immediately. At the other extreme, adultery is a major injury, and most experts say it takes at least two years to get past it — and that’s if both people really work at it and the betrayer goes through some really uncomfortable stuff.
You can certainly agree on an “expiration date” for small things, but for anything that’s really big you probably can’t set a deadline but instead need to work through it gradually in stages.
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