If you can’t appreciate the gender traits of your partner, Nicole Johnson writes, you may not be with the right person.
I’m madly in love with my husband. The adoration I feel for him is indescribable. I am mesmerized by Rob’s manhood; his masculinity is intoxicating.
Rob and I have been together for 13 years. During this time, we have been married for 10 perfect years. I am truly the luckiest girl in the world.
Our marriage has been successful for a myriad of reasons. I have expressed my sentiments on sustaining relationship longevity in previous articles. Aside from the obvious factors that are necessary for marital success, I believe men and women should derive pleasure from each other’s femininity and masculinity. Regardless of sexual orientation, if you can not revel in your partner’s distinct gender traits, I firmly believe you are with the wrong person.
It is an effortless joy to celebrate my husband’s masculinity. I love Rob’s physical manly prowess and the way he moves in his powerful six foot frame. I love his chest hair and facial hair, as well as his shaved balding head. His manhood can be seen in every pore. I love Rob’s deep baritone voice. His words shape my world; I continually receive a refreshing perspective on life and love.
My husband’s masculinity is incredibly sexy. I love how our bodies interlock with intense passion. I love feeling the weight and size of his body pressed against me as we snuggle in a warm cocoon. When I am enveloped by his physical and emotional nakedness, I feel exceptionally loved and protected.
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I love being a woman. However, I’m thrilled my husband does not share some of my feminine attributes. I am drawn to Rob’s logic, courage, composure, assertion, capability, and humility. At times, I wish I could emulate my husband’s character, especially his poise. When I am confronted with adversity, I strive to be as controlled as Rob.
I’m an alpha female, and Rob is an alpha male. Despite our alpha status, I compliment his type of masculinity and he is a beautiful balance to my type of femininity. By “type”, I am referring to subdivisions of womanhood and manhood.
There are varying degrees of femininity and masculinity. Certain women are extremely feminine, while other women do not display dainty female characteristics. If a woman is not delicate or nurturing, this does not make her less of a woman. Conversely, there are men who are not manly. If a man’s manliness is not prominent, can he still be masculine? Absolutely! Every man is not designed to be a strapping, strong stud.
I appreciate the flexibility of femininity and the malleability of masculinity. Men and women should never be confined to stereotypes.
True love means loving someone without condition. If you do not love your man’s masculinity and respect his manhood, you are not with the right man. Set him free.
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About Nicole Johnson
I never liked that term “love unconditionally”, if you love someone then they should have the ability to hurt you, they should be able to breach your conditions. If they don’t have that ability, you likely didn’t care about them. I am not saying they will do it, just that the option and ability needs to be there. I never liked the David statue as with respects to David, if it was Apollo (which is normally how I see it) I can take it. But it is a Jewish man from the Levant. He needs a circumcised penis, maybe a more proportional sized one as well, and also he needs some facial hair
I am amazed at the number of persons who feel it necessary to belittle others to make themselves feel confident and accepted. I like how your message edifies ad builds. I think the world in general is ready to accept that woman and men are equal. I think it is time that we start building the opposite sex and supporting each other. I love your positive attitude.
I loved your article!
It’s so “soul-nurturing” reading such enthuasiast appreciation and admiration. The world needs more like that!
You’re truly a lucky girl, and so is your husband.
I agree with your last statement as well.
Alas, it’s so much easier blaming and attacking your partner, rather than acknowledging your relationship is faulty and you need to change.
Blaming is not taking responsibility.
Sorry, but I was offended when the author called herself a girl, especially since she called her husband a man. Phrases like ‘man and girl’ demean women.
I wanted the author to say that she is the luckiest WOMAN in the world. I wanted her to say that her husband rejoices in her feminine power – her super-logical creative mind, her amazingly strong, flexible body, her phenomenal resilience and determination. I want her husband to admire her strength and brilliance. And I want her husband to be a tender, nurturing homemaker who makes lots of career sacrifices so that she can be at the top of her field.
Marie
Had the author said what you want her to, she would have come across as a narcissist who was talking the liberty of defining a separate beings thoughts, feeling and emotions. She would have sounded like a crazy person.
Funny thing about other people having this whole “free will” thing… sometimes they don’t do what you want them to do. Odd innit? You want the ability to control what other people do with their lives, then go play The Sims.
“Sorry, but I was offended when the author called herself a girl, especially since she called her husband a man. ”
Well we’re sorry about that, but not very. Do you have anything substantive to say?
I think that the other side of this good advice – “If you do not love your man’s masculinity and respect his manhood, you are not with the right man. Set him free.” – is for men to “set free” the women in their lives that don’t respect them – despite the media/sit-com message that being with an emasculating and abusive spouse is just the way it is.
“Feministas” hate and have a hard time accepting men who “show their masculinity”. What really drives them crazy, however, are women who “love men who show their masculinity”. Their ideal man sits in the corner, head down, nodding in agreement to all said to him by her, muttering an occasional “Yes Dear”. Quite honestly Ms. Johnson, your way sounds like a lot more fun! Great article! Best wishes to you and your husband.
I”f you can’t appreciate the gender traits of your partner, Nicole Johnson writes, you may not be with the right person.”
Actually you may not be with the right gender.