Honey, Please Bring Home The Bacon: Women, Dating & Money

Jamie Reidy comments on recent studies showing men are now more willing to date up.

 

Liza Mundy reports in “Time” that a longtime relationship trend is changing.

But a growing body of research shows that while there may have once been a stigma to making money, high-earning women actually have an advantage in the dating-and-marriage market. In February 2012, the Hamilton Project, a Brookings Institution initiative that tracks trends in earnings and life prospects, found that marriage rates have risen for top female earners

I’d like to report this news breaking item: Men also prefer a woman who like performing fellatio following a three-course meal she cooked.

How is the Hamilton Projects finding surprising?

We’re in a recession! Pride is expensive. Billy Joel was clearly ahead of his time with “Uptown Girl.”

I’m completely cool with dating a woman who earns more than I do. How about you guys?

Photo by: klynslis

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About Jamie Reidy

Jamie Reidy is a former U.S. Army officer turned little blue pill pusher turned author. His first book "Hard Sell: The Evolution of A Viagra Salesman"
served as the basis for the movie "Love and Other Drugs" starring Jake Gyllenhaal. Jamie is currently writing his new book, "Game On: One Fanatic's Fantastic, Foolish and Futile Attempt to Attend 365 Sporting Events in 365 Days." He discovered his latest story featured on Good Men Project - "Hope Shoots and Scores" - on Day 39 of his crazy journey.

Comments

  1. I too think that it´s a myth that higher-earning female partners would somehow damage the male self-confidence. I know of no such case and have never heard of this. Most guys I know would love to have girlfriends/wives that either contribute to the mutual income or even out-earn them. I think it´s rather the other way around that many women do have a psychological problem with their partners not making “enough”, i.e. not more than them. It is not always just men that uphold traditional roles – often enough it´s women themselves.

    • For me it’s not that the men don’t make enough because together as a couple we will make it and the bills and household expenses will be handled. For me and lots of women, it’s getting men to DO enough in the relationship! Help keep the lawn up, try to repair or fix things around the house the we may not be able to fix, take the time to listen to us. We aren’t always nagging, we’re communicating! Some men are just lazy and its a turn off!

      • Maybe it’s best to no live with someone that turns you off. Perhaps it’s better to get to know the person well prior to choosing to cohabitate. If there are big surprises and unexpected frustrations you didn’t know that particular person well enough.

        • Great point Eric! I’m speaking luckily from overall observation and analysis from my friends, family and surroundings. I’m still single but this topic is one that I see has become one of the biggest issues among couples. You’re right don’t live with anyone who’s a turn off to you and there are early signs!!

  2. qabradford says:

    Frank Sinatra sang it before Billy Joel in “It Was a Very Good Year”.

  3. There are men who aren’t ok with their partner making more money than them, but there also are men who don’t like the personality and attitude of woman who make more money then them.

    Often times it’s not the money, it’s the personality and attitude behind the money.

    We see articles on successful woman who find it hard to attract men, they pin it on their success then go on to insult and belittle men.
    What person (men or woman) would want to be around someone who’ll badmouth people when they have difficulty attracting a mate ?

    • This.

      I recall reading an article written by one such woman (which unfortunately I can’t find anymore.) who told a story about a time she was on a date with a doctor. They had gone to an Italian restaurant where she knew the owner. Eventually the owner came by and she and the owner had a long drawn out conversation, in italian, which her date did’t speak.

      Apparently the fact that her date was uncomfortable by all this absolutely mystified her, and she claimed it was because he was “intimidated’ by her ability to speak italian so fluently, or something.

      She didn’t seem to realize that having a prolonged conversation on a date, with another man, in a language he ca’t speak, is extremely rude.

      But, no, he was “intimidated” by her.

    • You’re right! No one Should ever purposely belittle anyone! I’m thinking women just want to protect their heart and not be used or taken for granted. On the flip side some women don’t know how to encourage and lift men up who they don’t feel aren’t on their level. There is a sprit of discernment that can sense if he’s a good guy who may be facing tough times or just a complete user lookung to snag a good woman who earns good money.

    • You’re right! No one Should ever purposely belittle anyone! I’m thinking women just want to protect their heart and not be used or taken for granted. On the flip side some women don’t know how to encourage and lift men up who they don’t feel aren’t on their level. There is a sprit of discernment that can sense if he’s a good guy who may be facing tough times or just a complete user looking to snag a good woman who earns good money.

  4. Newsflash: women prefer dating up, dislike dating down.

    • You have a valid point. Why should we or anyone settle? The relationship is bound to become a place filled with negative energy if the female even starts to think she’s doing ” Everything” in the relationship. Now I don’t think that’s all mens agenda, but I know for sure it’s a way out for some guys who specifically seek that!

  5. As long as the hidden motive is not to snag a female who earns more money so they can just do nothing but give her a lil sex and maybe a foot massage but not much else. Too many times I’m running into more and more men who look for successful females who cook, clean, give lots of sex and yes brings home the bacon. What’s in it for us? Bragging rights that we got a guy!

  6. There will always be gold diggers. You have to determine if you are cool with it or not. Personally im not.

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