Have I Become The Christian I Can’t Stand?

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About Rev. Evan M. Dolive

Rev. Evan M. Dolive is an ordained minister in the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ). He is married to his high school sweetheart and has two children ages 3 and 1. He currently serves as hospital chaplain in Beaumont, Texas. He also blogs for Houston Belief.For more information about Evan visit www.evandolive.com or find him on Twitter or Facebook.


  1. I agree with what you’re saying. Christians need to try to be less judgemental, I believe you can win more people by trying to show them love than having a “holier than thou” attitude and trying to scare people into accepting christ. Sure those people will accept christ because they dont want to go to hell but the way I see it, is loving God out of fear genuine? Is that what God intended when he created man? I feel loving God just because you dont want to go to hell makes it fake and as though you are trying to trick God to get into heaven but you cant because God is omniscient. I think love based evangelism provides a better foundation for a christian life. Anyway, what do I know? I am but a lowly sinner struggling with my belief system.

  2. Tom Brechlin says:

    Oh yeah, I can honestly say that I “had,” past tense, become a Christian I can’t stand. But I think that what I’m about to say may stir things up. I became a liberal Christian and in my opinion, a Christian is neither liberal or conservative and I needed to get back to being a Christian.

    In so far as being judgmental, it’s not my responsibility to “judge people” but I am responsible for determining if a behavior or an action falls within line with God’s word. My discerning a behavior has nothing to do with accepting another person for who he/she is. I accept and love my neighbor and it is out of love of God that has me turning back to him and turning away from a secular society that wants to change things to what “they” want and not what God expects of us.

    We are all sinners and accordingly, we ask God for His forgiveness but that’s not the end of it. He expects us to “sin no more” and move forward. It’s like cheating on your spouse and asking forgiveness and they forgive but then the person goes out and cheats again. The difference is that God continues to forgive but His forgiveness isn’t to be construed as acceptance of the behavior.

    Yeah, I had become a secular Christian and almost fell into the trap that “love thy neighbor” meant accepting whatever people did or wanted even when it flies in the face of Christ’s teachings.

    I’m pleased to say that there are many like me that are turning back to their Christian roots. The best part of it is that although they are less accepting of behaviors, they are becoming more loving and caring for the sinner and far less judgmental of the person but holding their ground to the behaviors they know to be wrong in God’s eyes.

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