Does your relationship require a man cave?
This article originally appeared at YourTango Experts.
With the economy and mortgage approvals making it barely possible for many to own their own home, purchasing the material to construct a man cave may be tough. You can achieve a man cave concept by giving your guy his own space within your home—this will help prevent your marriage or relationship from being sacrificed due to his need for solitude. Here are a few suggestions to help you get started:
1. Decide where in the home his cave will be. Guys like to take up a lot of space, so maybe a whole room or part of the garage for him would be best.
2. After you settle on a place, let him decorate it. Don’t worry, men’s taste with décor isn’t as expensive as a women’s. Guys like caves and can do with minimal stuff…usually.
4. Kids should stay out of the man cave … unless their dad personally invites them in.
5. I would never help build a man cave for my man if I didn’t trust him. In fact, I wouldn’t share a home with anyone I didn’t trust. We aren’t going to build a man cave this year, but I am going to help make “his space” at our home more comfortable. He wants a new desk for his computer. He chose one that didn’t match the décor, but it is his man cave within our home.
Great marriages are built with trust, understanding and realizing you cannot be all things to your partner. Encouraging each other’s alone time can energize your marriage and make you more appreciative of the person you share your cave with.
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The man cave concept is a room of one’s own by another name. Everyone needs a place where they can just “be”. Granted ideally a “home” is a safe harbor for a couple – however that is all the more reason for a space to enjoy solitude and silence. Think of it like a journal a private space where one can sort out whatever one is dealing with and face the world again. The room of one’s own enhances a healthy relationship. Fact is no matter how much you like or love another person at some point or another time… Read more »
What is the man cave all about? I wonder whether it should be called a BOY cave!
Isn’t the need for a cave actually saying that men are not growing, developing or evolving – if men could develop their emotional capacities then perhaps they woudn’t have to have cave time…
I don’t have any issues with men wanting to spend time by themselves- that is really important… but a little space just for them… that sounds like a boy having a den…
I think that a ‘man cave’ is simply a man’s space where he can work on his own projects free of interference, or having someone come in and ‘clean it all up’ – which inevitable disrupts whatever it was that was in progress in that space. In that way, how is it dissimilar from a ‘sewing room’ or ‘craft room’? Yet we don’t accuse women of not growing, developing or evolving if they want their own space of that nature. [ I acknowledge that I’m going with gender stereotypes here with the “women = sewing” thing, that’s beside the point.… Read more »