Is Twitter the New Relationship Killer?

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Jimmy Jacob is the head writer over at Personal Facts (http://personalsfacts.com), a blog about online dating, sex, love and personal ancedotes of Jimmy's dating woes and successes. You can also connect with him on twitter @personalsfacts (http://twitter.com/personalsfacts.com).

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  1. Andrew Martens says:

    If one person in a relationship is having issues with their partner tweeting with ‘too many women’, it’s fairly obvious that there are issues of insecurity and jealousy.

    The issue to deal with is, “What is the cause of these feelings, and how can we work to address that?” Innocuous tweets should not be threatening a healthy relationship – but why not work with your partner to help them to overcome their insecurities? Perhaps there was betrayal in the past with a previous partner via some form of online communications, or they simply don’t understand the nature of twitter, or there is some other concern. Getting to the root of it will help them as an individual, as well as helping the relationship.

    If they’re concerned about Twitter, of all things, then it’s only a matter of time until they object to a person socializing with friends of the opposite sex.

  2. Travis Blankenship says:

    Twitter as a relationship killer is brilliant. It’s the chance to make all new “deal breakers” without the creepy guilt of stalking. Since it’s easier to follow someone you’ve seen once than it is to friend them, you can easily avoid second contact after noticing he/she retweets everything from Ricky Martin since that episode of Glee. Connections based on media obsession rather than self-interest are sooo much healthier, anyway.

  3. I’ve already expressed to you why i think you’re being short-sighted. As one of the women that you sometimes Tweet, and because I follow you on Twitter, I can absolutely see why your girlfriend is perturbed.

    Your blog has a mostly female audience. You have a lot of women in your orbit, and that would make any woman – even the most secure ones – suspicious. Frankly, it should. Any man or woman with an inordinate number of opposite sex friends or “friends” is questionable to me.

    You have to remember that you very freely discuss aspects of your relationship on your blog and, if we’re going to be honest, you sometimes paint your girlfriend in a negative light. And then a bunch of women come in and judge her. You are greatly underestimating what kind of an impact that has on a woman. You are sharing intimate details of your relationship with other females.. That is very, very threatening to many woman. I don’t care how confident she is. It’s a threat, and you’d be smart to get a better understanding of female to female dynamics if you’re going to insist upon cultivating a following of women while trying to maintain a relationship.

    I don’t know any man, other than one with a propensity for drama and self-obsession, who would want to be subjected to that kind of scrutiny or who would wish to be made so vulnerable. .

  4. Blaming Twitter as yet another cause for break-ups was inevitable. For this exact reason, my colleagues are about to launch a website called http://www.Cuplinx.com
    After all the talk about how social media sites (Facebook, and now Twitter, etc) are causing the demise of relationships, it’s about time a site was created to do just the opposite! The goal of Cuplinx is to strengthen the bond, communication and intimacy between existing couples. And it’s FUN. Between the
    Romance Recipes, the advice and tips section, and the area where a sig others can post a debate they’re having and have the community vote and comment, couples are sure to thrive, bond and add passion to their relationship!

  5. That Guy says:

    I wish I could explain all the ways you’re wrong, but I only get 140 characters….

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