The phrase ‘bachelor pad’ evokes images of empty pizza boxes, video games, unmade beds, and piles of dirty dishes. While these may be attractive lifestyle features for some twenty-something guys, they probably won’t score you any points with the opposite sex—in fact, last week’s dirty dishes are likely to send women running in the other direction.
So as a single man, how can you ensure that your place has that certain je nais se quoi that properly conveys both your independence and style to the women you bring home? It’s important to understand what women evaluate when they enter your man cave—and how you can respond to evoke a specific response.
Are you clean enough to be someone she could imagine living with? Is the place clean enough to do dirty things with you?
How many times have you run around five minutes before a date trying to make sure your place is somewhat presentable? Cleanliness is the main thing women look for when they are visiting a guy’s place. If you’re wondering what the big deal is, here’s the thing. How your apartment looks tells people a lot about who you are. If you live in a sty now, that’s not likely to change when you settle down and she’s asking herself if she can live amidst your chaos or worse, pick up after you. If it’s really bad, she’s probably wondering how clean your sheets are and whether or not that’s a deal breaker for some fun later on.
So what are the priority areas? You’ll want to do the dishes, vacuum any crumbs, change your sheets and make the bed, and clean up serious clutter. One crucial area you should never overlook is the bathroom—one of the biggest turn offs for women is a bathroom that hasn’t been cleaned in three months. After you’ve cleaned the bathroom, make sure you have toilet paper, clean towels, and hand soap. We’re not talking a scoured, OCD-clean apartment; just a degree of cleanliness and an adequate stock of crucial supplies (toilet paper!) that shows you pay attention to detail and can take of yourself.
Are you a perpetual man child? Are you a partyer who uses his apartment as a bed and shower stall?
While you may think you’re going for the ‘minimalist’ look by decorating your home with three pieces of furniture and nothing else, your bed, television, and couch are unlikely to convey your personality very effectively. Your apartment should showcase who you are. Women look forward to seeing the other side of you when they visit your place. Envision every woman who enters your apartment feeling like she was just granted access to some inner sanctum. She’s looking for details on who you are, what you like, and how you spend your time. These are important subtle signals into how she perceives your compatibility.
Maybe you enjoy spending time with your family or you’re a fan of a particular sports team or the Star Wars films. Perhaps you’re an avid climber or you’ve traveled to the far reaches of the globe. Show these things off! You don’t have to go overboard and fill every square inch of your living room with your Star Wars Lego collection, but your date will appreciate that your place reflects who you are. Hang up a few family photos, some of your sports memorabilia, and pull some trinkets from your travels out of that box in your closet. A little personality in your place goes a long way.
Is this a place that she wants to spend time? Do you have a sense for the comfort of the people around you?
If your apartment furnishings consist of two bean bags, an end table, and a mattress on your floor, it’s time to think about upgrading your furniture. When a woman comes to visit and there’s no place to sit or put down her stuff, it doesn’t create welcoming atmosphere. She’s asking herself two questions. The first is whether this is a place she’d want to spend time if you get more serious. The second is whether you’ve put any thought into the comfort of other people who spend time at your place. These questions lead to lots of tangential but important points: maybe you only entertain women for the night? Do you not have any friends who want to come over and spend time? Are you not able to provide the basic comforts of life for yourself? A woman wants to feel that you’re secure, that you have important people in your life, and that you know how to treat them right. Make sure your apartment conveys that message.
You don’t have to go out and spend a fortune on a new living room set; there are some comfortable and inexpensive options available at your local Ikea store. Or look on craigslist to see if you can find some gently used second hand furniture. Your date will appreciate that you’ve got a comfortable place for her to sit and relax when she visits your place. And remember: if she’s comfy, she’ll probably want to hang out with you longer.
Your place should be tidy, relaxing and reflect who you are, not make people want to run in the opposite direction. So make sure it’s clean and comfortable and you add a little bit of personality to your space. With a few simple changes, you’ll create a welcoming environment that speaks well of who you are now (and your future potential!) to the women you hope to impress.
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