#5: Eyes

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Tom Matlack is the co-founder of The Good Men Project. He has a 18-year-old daughter and 16- and 7-year-old sons. His wife, Elena, is the love of his life. Follow him on Twitter @TMatlack.

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  1. And here is the difference between men and women’s socialization laid bare.

    “Those eyes looked into my soul and saw something I had never seen in myself. In his eyes, I finally began to see my own potential—as a rower and as a man.”

    Men are potential, waiting to be realized, at the expense of their male bodies–disposable in the pursuit of their real worth which lies in their actions.

    Women have no potential. Everything they are exists on a passive continuum between birth and puberty, peaking in their late teens and declining thereafter. Their actions are irrelevant in the face of this slow, inevitable decomposition of their worth.

    Now. How do we change that?

    • By stopping victim mentality. Not sure if you noticed but men have competition bread into them to the point it’s nearly toxic. Those “pissing contests” that women belittle them for, are a part of that, but also failing to live up to those expectations plays HAVOC on the self esteem. It’s EXTREMELY tricky to balance, I think people are too busy seeing successful men without realizing behind every success is many failed attempts….

      • True.

        And a good step toward changing it is this:

        typhon:
        Men are potential, waiting to be realized, at the expense of their male bodies–disposable in the pursuit of their real worth which lies in their actions.
        Stop holding those men to some expected level of success required to count as “real men”.

  2. @Typhon_Uncensored:

    Maybe you’re right. Or maybe women and men are not so different.

    Men are potential, waiting to be realized, at the expense of their male bodies–disposable in the pursuit of their real worth which lies in their actions.

    Women have no potential. Everything they are exists on a passive continuum between birth and puberty, peaking in their late teens and declining thereafter. Their actions are irrelevant in the face of this slow, inevitable decomposition of their worth.

    I disagree. Everyone is potential. Everyone is only the worth of their actions. And it’s not out of any feminist urge “Women are better than that” that I want to say ‘Fuck you.’ It’s out of my absolute determination to devote my life to language, physics, biochemistry and the study of aging that makes me want to punch you in the face for damning my future as a pitiful decline into mediocrity.

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