Now that you’re well into another busy school year of working with men on college campuses, military bases, athletic teams, places of worship, etc., I thought it would be a great time to share my collection of videos that I use on a regular basis in my work to train prevention workers on strategies to engage men in gender-based violence prevention work.
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The Ladder of Manhood presented by Jeff Perera
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Masks Off – A Challenge to Men by Jeremy Loveday
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A Call to Men presented by Tony Porter of A Call to Men
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When by Breakthrough
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Violence Against Women – It’s A Men’s Issue presented by Jackson Katz
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Porque by National Latino Network
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It Ends Where it Begins by White Buffalo Calf Women
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Shit Men Say to Men Who Say Shit to Women on the Street by Stop Street Harassment
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Be That Guy by Breakthrough
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It’s On Us: Sexual Assault PSA by The White House
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Man Prayer written by Eve Ensler for V-Day
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The Heart of A Boy – Tuval’s Story by It Starts With You
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Men. Lead by Example by Vera House
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Men Against Sexual Assault by The University of Arizona
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The BeMore Campaign by The Family Partnership
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A Needed Response by Samantha Stendal
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Introducing the Engaging Deaf Men Project by Abused Deaf Women’s Advocacy Services
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Emma Watson HeForsShe Speech at the United Nations by HeForShe Campaign
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Be A Man presented by Joe Ermann
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Red Riots: Coaching Boys Into Men by Futures Without Violence
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Originally appeared on the author’s blog, shared with full permission.
Last night I watched a episode of SVU …. Guess what? It was about male victims of sexual abuse!!!! Sadly it glossed over the fact that some females were involved in the incident but did go as far as to make it clear they were perpetrators. It also addressed the fact that the gay guy who replaced a girl when giving a BJ to a blindfolded guy was call “rape.”
Amy that was incredible writing. Much better than the actual article.
Amy, you made my day.
Great post! Thanks for sharing it. As for the other folks commenting – you are missing the bigger picture. Domestic violence affects all people – all genders, races, classes, orientations, etc., and all of it is bad. This particular post is about engaging men in preventing violence against women. That is a more narrow topic than domestic violence in general. I encourage them to write your own blog/develop your own videos that address the subject of women’s violence against men. People write about the things that impact them personally. I have blogged about men’s sexual violence myself because I have… Read more »
@ Ted Several things. 1. Writing posts don’t guaranty that they’ll get published. I’ve made comments pointing out that an admitted serial domestic abuser is the face of a company and there is no uproar because the abuser is a woman who has abused men and these comments get suppressed even when supporting links are included. Writing a post and getting it published won’t help when there is the desire yto protect certain perpetrator groups. 2. There is no shortage of these videos. Who hasn’t seen or heard about at least one of these? How effective is it? One of… Read more »
Great post! Thanks for sharing it. As for the other folks commenting – you are missing the bigger picture. Domestic violence affects all people – all genders, races, classes, orientations, etc., and all of it is bad. This particular post is about engaging men in preventing violence against women. That is a more narrow topic than domestic violence in general. I encourage them to write your own blog/develop your own videos that address the subject of women’s violence against men. People write about the things that impact them personally. I have blogged about men’s sexual violence myself because I have… Read more »
In the context of the current climate surrounding the discussion of domestic violence, you really can’t just discount what the other commenters are saying as nit picky. They are NOT playing a game of “us vs. them.” If the conversation surrounding the issue of domestic violence was a little bit more balanced- with male victims who account for over 40% of the total victims given even at least half of that attention (in other words, just 20% of the attention), then you might maybe have a point. Imagine being a male victim and never hearing stories told or shown from… Read more »
Amy, all I can say is WOW
@ Amy
With of course the appropriate and accepted response to the mention of male victims or female perpetrators being to try and shut down the conversation.
The women’s advocates made it an us versus them situation. Just insisting that there be fair representation does not take anything away from women that they should have, it probably doesn’t even take away anything form them that they shouldn’t have. Thankfully around here it’s getting to be more and more common for ads that raise awareness of violence against women to include figures for similar crimes against men. It’s not really enough, but it’s a start. As there’s more awareness of it, there’s likely to be more reports and a better sense of what’s really going on there. Reducing… Read more »
Frank, don’t hold your breath for that apology …. won’t happen
I didn’t reduce it to “us vs. them” therefore I have nothing to apologize for. I feel like the prior comments (and from all the times I have seen these sort of comments) make it “us vs. them”. I very clearly stated that all forms of domestic violence are bad. Nobody deserves to be treated this way. I have swept nothing under any rugs and I have not diminished the stories of male survivors in any way, shape, or form. I have worked at a domestic violence shelter, which serves male clients, and I have seen first hand how the… Read more »
@ Ted That’s because you’re used to the feminist way of dividing people. MRAs don’t talk about gay men or black men or trans men as something separate from men. MRAs look at things as people issues, hence, you don’t hear MRAs complain about women being brought up even in articles that specifically talk about men’s issues although you see this constantly with feminists. MRAs don’t view female MRAs as allies like feminists view male feminists. If you’re going to champion equality, it would help to view people as equals. FYI: Over the last two years I’ve been a volunteer… Read more »
Wow, the mod squad strikes again.
Here is a challenge …..
Find 20 videos showing women stating the same about violence against men perpetrated by women.
Not one of them about violence that men themselves experience. What about men who are victims of domestic violence? Why don’t they count?
I’m not watching all of those. Given the ones in that list that I have already seen, how many of them simply treat DV fallaciously as something men do to women, and something that men need to “step up” as a whole to stop (in a way that isn’t demanded of women as a group)?