The person you’re talking to on dating apps is, in part, a language model.
About Aleks Filmore
Why We Settle for Breadcrumbs and Call It Grace
On hunger with good posture and what depletion actually looks like.
On hunger with good posture and what depletion actually looks like.
The Trap of the “Low-Maintenance” Partner
Or why I stopped auditioning for decency.
Or why I stopped auditioning for decency.
Aftercare for Adults
On the breakup aftercare as a missing script.
On the breakup aftercare as a missing script.
Terms and Conditions for Dating a Memoirist
How to flirt when someone might turn you into a paragraph.
How to flirt when someone might turn you into a paragraph.
Why the Internet Keeps Promising Your Ex Is Coming Back
Prophecy is the cheapest comfort to manufacture.
Prophecy is the cheapest comfort to manufacture.
We Don’t Break Up Anymore. We Decommission Each Other.
Polite language. Quiet violence. Clean exits.
Polite language. Quiet violence. Clean exits.
I Dated the Kinkster So You Don’t Have to
When sex becomes a personality and you become the prop.
When sex becomes a personality and you become the prop.
I Dated the Grinch So You Don’t Have To
What happens when you date someone allergic to Christmas.
What happens when you date someone allergic to Christmas.
The New Emotional Poverty Line: Why Healing Has Become a Luxury Class
We keep insisting healing is “for everyone.” What we actually built is a healing system that runs on money, time, privacy, and energy, then blames you when you do not have those things.
We keep insisting healing is “for everyone.” What we actually built is a healing system that runs on money, time, privacy, and energy, then blames you when you do not have those things.
I Dated a Conspiracy Theorist So You Don’t Have to
Loving a man who trusted anyone else more than me.
Loving a man who trusted anyone else more than me.
Emotionally Intelligent, Emotionally Dangerous
Inside the minds of people who can explain your pain but never change their behavior.
Inside the minds of people who can explain your pain but never change their behavior.
Why Healthy Love Feels Wrong When You Grew Up on Chaos
The first time I dated someone genuinely kind, I thought I was dying of boredom.
The first time I dated someone genuinely kind, I thought I was dying of boredom.
The Men We Date in Our Heads Are Always Better
Why you fall for who they could be.
Why you fall for who they could be
They Loved My Potential, Not Me
Why some people adore your becoming but vanish once you arrive
Why some people adore your becoming but vanish once you arrive
Love, but Make It Transactional
How Modern Romance Became an Unstable Economy
How Modern Romance Became an Unstable Economy