Part 4: If we want to live more fulfilling lives, sometimes we have to change our stories. Relational intelligence grows in the back and forth of relating, of conversation. But there can be challenges in how we relate. We can hold stories about ourselves and other that are not helping us. One of the most…
The Relational Book for Parenting, Part 3: Witnessing Our Children’s Difficult Emotions
Is rushing in to fix our children's emotional challenges about ending their discomfort, or ours?
Part 3: Witnessing and supporting the difficult emotions of our children helps them learn to self-regulate in the back and forth of relating. Frustration, sadness, fear or rage are difficult emotions to witness, but the people we love sometimes need for us to witness and hold difficult emotions for them. We can grow our capacity…
The Relational Book for Parenting, Part 2: Labeling Our Emotions
How we name our emotions determines who we are becoming
Part 2: We can learn to identify our emotions, but we should always do so with care. We live in a culture that suppresses emotional expression in boys and girls alike. As such, helping ourselves and our children learn to identify the full range of emotions we are feeling is important work for all of us.…
The Relational Book for Parenting, Part 1: Where Are Our Feelings Created?
We assume our emotions are born inside us, right? Yeah, well, not so fast there, my friend…
Part 1: So, where do feelings get created? Here’s a comic strip from The Relational Book for Parenting. There is a lot of great work being done to grow our collective awareness of the central role emotional expression plays in our lives. Social emotional learning programs in schools are helping children grow their emotional intelligence.…
The Lack of Gentle Platonic Touch in Men’s Lives is a Killer
Mark Greene explores how in American culture, men avoid all contact rather than risk even the hint of causing unwanted sexual touch.
Mark Greene explores how in American culture, men avoid all contact rather than risk even the hint of causing unwanted sexual touch.
The Man Box: Why Men Police and Punish Each Other
“Every time you do this, you become less free. A rat in a cage. A dog on a chain. A prisoner.”
Parenting in the Age of Uncertainty
Of all the capacities we have for managing change and chaos, play---the one we knew so intimately as children---still serves us best.
Of all the capacities we have for managing change and chaos, play—the one we knew so intimately as children—still serves us best.
Five Terrors of Being a Man
Mark Greene explores how men’s wide ranging fears remain hidden behind a facade of false confidence.
How the Man Box Can Kill Our Sons Now or Decades from Now
Bullying and murder are bad enough, but the meta risk factors of the Man Box can kill our sons decades in the future.
Masculinity is Not Toxic
Our culture's narrow, conformist, violent, bullying version of it is.
Our culture’s narrow, conformist, violent, bullying version of it is.
9 Things Men are Not
Mark Greene believes men are not any one thing.
Most Likely, Gun Violence Won’t Be What Kills You (or Saves You)
If you're tracking threats to your home and family, then track this monster.
If you’re tracking threats to your home and family, then track this monster.
The Emotional Suppression of Boys and Men [Video]
Think emotional stoicism is normal and natural for men? Watch this.
This four and a half minute video highlights the damaging impact of the American culture of male emotional toughness, which bullies our young sons into hiding their emotional expression. There is a direct through line from the emotional suppression of boys to the epidemic of loneliness faced by 44 million middle aged adults. It contributes…
The Good Men Project on IndieGogo: Create New Media Virtual Campfires with Us!
Mark Greene of "Remaking Manhood" shares why he's part of The Good Men Project community, and why you should support the IndieGoGo campaign.
Mark Greene of “Remaking Manhood” shares why he’s part of The Good Men Project community, and why you should support the IndieGoGo campaign.
It Hits You Like a Bolt Out of the Blue: What I Really Want for Father’s Day is Forgiveness
Somehow, we need a day when we can be more human.
Somehow, we need a day when we can be more human.
A Manifesto: Relational Intelligence For Our Children
Our children's birthright is their capacity to form authentic, emotionally vibrant relationships.
Our children’s birthright is their capacity to form authentic, emotionally vibrant relationships.