Long supported in their “softer” emotions by women, why shouldn’t men return the favor?
While we discover clever ways of dodging criticism and complaints from others we have much less success evading our own inner critic.
You didn’t just run out of things to say. Richard Gatley has some guidance for how to start talking again.
In order for us to be truly present for our partners, we need to come clean about our heart’s history.
You’re not really trying to learn anything. You’re looking for a reason to beat yourself up.
Sometimes, you just have to learn a few lessons before you’re ready for the love of your life.
“If you meet us sometime, ask us about how we handle our differences, about how we can tell each other things we’ve never told another person. Ask us about sex in our 70s and we’ll have you blushing.”
Richard Gatley, a clinical psychologist, observes that men and women can experience anger differently. He explains what he sees and teaches men how to lovingly respond.
Were you really listening or merely rehearsing what you were going to say next?
“Let her know how I feel? Are you crazy? The last time I did that, she threw it in my face the very next time we had an argument. I felt like a fool for letting my guard down with her.”
Richard Gatley reminds us that men do feel emotions but often lack the training to express them.