— As a dating coach, it’s my mission to keep you away from toxic people, to keep you safe and sane as you navigate the often confusing world of dating, especially after 40. Controlling people, which my colleague Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls Hijackals™, put on a good show to win your heart, and it’s easy to…
4 Words That Could Ruin a First Date
Which 4 words do you think might turn a first date into a disaster? It's important to laugh (or at least smile a little) on your search for love.
◊♦◊ Can you guess what most happy couples have in common? Shared values? Sure, that’s important, but I’m thinking of something else. Similar political views? Helpful, especially in this heated U.S. election year. I’m referring to one particular thing that adds an extra zing to a relationship, and that is the ability to laugh together.…
4 Steps from Love-Challenged to Finding True Love
If you're in a romantic rut or feel love-challenged, try this highly effective way to get from 'single' to 'in a relationship'.
I received this desperate letter from a self-professed love-challenged woman who wants a relationship but can’t seem to find love. She was confused and hopeless. If you’ve ever felt love-challenged, whether you’re a man or a woman, the advice I give her might be helpful to you, too. ◊♦◊ Dear Sandy, I am love-challenged, and…
9/11: Looking Back With Sadness and Forward With Urgency
Remembering 9/11 as a wakeup call. Time is short. Don’t put off what’s most important in life and love.
— 9/11/2001. You probably remember exactly where you were when the Twin Towers were hit. I was working in my children’s school as an art teacher at the time, and the news came on before the kids arrived. We watched the planes fly into the World Trade Towers. We looked on in disbelief. How could this…
6 Invaluable Lessons Learned From Divorce
What have you learned from your divorce? Dating Coach, Sandy Weiner, polled 550 women, and here are their answers.
— One of my favorite questions to ask on a first date is, “What have you learned from your divorce?” I want to know if my date has learned about himself, and if so, how has he applied that learning to his post-divorce relationships? The answer to this question tells me a lot about a man’s character. Has…
‘The SECOND Ask’: When Kindness Gets Pushed to the Limits
Have you ever had your kindness challenged? Were you asked to do a second favor and said ‘yes’ when you meant ‘no’? Here's what to do...
Are you a nice person, someone who enjoys doing favors for others? You’re the one they call to volunteer at your synagogue or church, to take a friend to the doctor, or to help a friend in need. Kindness is a wonderful virtue. And it should come with a big caution sign, because if you…
17 Things Single Men Over 40 Need to Know
Single men: want to win a woman's heart? Here's what women want you to know.
I asked 530 single women over 40 to answer this question: The most important thing I’d like to tell single men over 40 (but I’m afraid to) is _______________ ? ◊♦◊ Here’s what they want single men 40+ to know… 1. Communication is so important. Don’t be wishy washy. Have the uncomfortable conversations.…
4 Ways to Stay Positive When Dating Gets You Down
What help you stay positive when dating gets you down? Dating Coach, Sandy Weiner, has 4 good tips for you.
Dating at any age can be challenging. Online dating can make you want to pull your hair out. And then, you finally see someone online with potential. Nice looking, seems pretty ‘normal’, interesting, bright, and fun. You do a little happy dance. So, you start a conversation on Bumble or Tinder, Match or OkCupid. You exchange…
5 Ways to Identify and Detach From a Narcissist
Dating a narcissist? Married to one? Here’s how to identify and detach from a narcissist. — Dear Sandy, I am so grateful I found your articles on how to identify a narcissist. I’ve thought to myself and said to my husband for years (after exhausting all polite ways to request my simplest of needs…
What Do Men REALLY Think of Sex on a First Date?
Do all men want to have sex on a first date? Let’s discuss… — Dear Sandy, I’ve recently ‘put myself out there’ in the dating scene following the death of my partner. I keep hearing conflicting advice regarding men’s expectations about sex on the first date. I am a very youthful looking 68-year-old woman. I’m told I…
How to Recognize a Player So You Don’t Get Played
Ever been played by a player? Here’s how to recognize a player so you don’t get played again.
Try This Creative Way to Recover From a Bad Breakup
Breakups can be devastating, but they don’t have to be. Try this to help you through a bad breakup. — After a bad breakup (or any breakup from a long-term relationship), I spend a lot of time thinking about what went wrong, so I can learn and get clarity. ◊♦◊ I ask myself a bunch of…
8 Steps to Courageously Express Your Needs When Feelings Are Hurt
These 8 steps will help you bravely express your needs when feelings are hurt. — What would you rather do—discuss your hurt feelings with your partner, or have a root canal? To many people, the latter seems a lot more appealing. The good news is, confrontation doesn’t have to feel so painful, scary, or risky. If you want an honest, authentic…
Should a Man Pay on a First Date in the 21st Century?
Does a man pay on a first date…or have times changed? — What do you think; should a man pay the full bill on a first date, or should a woman offer to contribute her share? I came across an article in Elite Daily, Why A Guy Shouldn’t Have To Pay For The First Date, by…
20 of the Best Tips for Finding Love After 40
Dating after 40? Here are my 20 best tips for finding love after 40… — You’re dating after 40. There’s so much conflicting advice out there for finding love after 40, how do you make sense of it all? Do you listen to your best buddy? Your mom, dad, sister, brother? Which dating experts have solid advice, and which confuse you…
5 First Date Questions You Should NEVER Ask
Asking the wrong first date questions can lead to a dating disaster. That’s why you shouldn’t ask these 5 questions on a first date… — First dates can be confusing, scary, and sometimes boring. Or they can be fun and exciting, especially if you’re armed with some good open-ended questions (and the right potential partner). Even if the person…