This comment of the day was by Steve Horsmon on the post The Unbelievable Secret to Getting More Sex
“In both singles dating and married life, I believe one key “secret” to a man “getting” more sex is to learn how to totally lose the energy and intention of trying to “get” sex. The notion of a man “getting sex” from a woman feels to most women like a telemarketing call—slimy. Yes, that’s a generalization and I’m not afraid to make it.
A man trying to “get sex” is one of the single biggest turn-offs to most of the hetero women (single and married) I speak to and it can be smelled a mile away. When their men learned to ELIMINATE their focus on “getting” sex from them, they both finally enjoyed more sex and better sex. (what their men DID focus on is a whole new discussion)
People have sex…enjoy sex…want sex…and even GIVE sex. But trying to “get” sex and the emotions that goes with the whole effort is the sabotaging secret for a lot of men.
After the analytical smoke clears, I’ve found that the men who enjoy more and higher quality sex than those who don’t have one thing in common.
They don’t NEED it and they don’t try to “GET” it.
They are comfortable and confident in their desire of it. They have learned, grown, and realized that they bring emotional and physical value to every relationship. Not every woman is attracted to them. Not every woman shares their values. Not every woman deserves them. The energy and emotions that these men have turn out to be very attractive and sexually appealing.
It’s my opinion that this is at the root of the “secret” Morris is writing about no matter what a man’s relationship status is.”