I can’t help but look at Donald Trump and see that he desperately needs help with his sex life.
Forget about whether Mr. Trump is a good candidate for president. I want to talk about him as a sexual man and shed some light on why I think he’s in real trouble, and a dangerous representative for sexual men everywhere.
I have experienced men like Mr. Trump in my life, men who violated my body, as if possessed by something outside of their control.
I’ve now come to know that the problem was not the men themselves but their lack of sexual power….
You see, in order for a man to be safe for women, he’s got be sexually powerful.
Sexual power means: you are the rightful owner of your sexuality.
That ownership is important. Just as a good horseman claims responsibility for the actions of his animal, a sexually powerful man claims responsibility for the actions of his sex.
Men who molest, rape and demean women, sexually, have not claimed ownership of their sexuality. Therefore, they believe their sexual impulses to be out of their control, outside of their conscious influence.
Think about the untrained, wild colt: the young horse has tremendous power and will, but because its power is unharnessed, can be a danger to those around him. This is how sex is for men who haven’t discovered how to get their “animal” underneath them, in service to their loving direction.
What I see in Mr. Trump is that wild colt (although not a young one). His unharnessed masculine energy is a danger to women — and a danger to men who would follow his crude, unrefined ways.
A powerful man doesn’t act as if the horse he’s riding isn’t his when the horse gets off track and out of line. He cleans up the mess and becomes a better master. But we live in a world of unclaimed masculine power, so that, often, when a man violates a woman, sexually, the men involved try to make her the perpetrator of the crime.
Mr. Trump is a perfect example. Instead of suggesting that he would never harm a woman, when he was accused, he has sought to make the women wrong by suggesting them unworthy of being violated. (Too fat or too ugly for that!)
A big part of the reason that Mr. Trump acts like a desperate adolescent around women is because he’s sexually immature. He has obviously not experienced deep, heart-connected sex. Once a man has taken that dive in love, he will, naturally and beautifully, ripen into sexual maturity.
When a man has tasted the power to give a woman deep pleasure, and he has drunk from the well of sexual satisfaction, himself, his need to brag about his successes with women vaporizes, like water on wind.
I know we like to think that Trump is misusing his sexual power, but we really need to see that he has no power, and that, that is his biggest problem — as it is for so many men like him around the world. Trump’s sexuality is clearly not under mature, wise direction and thus is a wild beast capable of great harm.
When men learn to be sexual powerful, true owners of their sex, and to connect sex to love, ugly deviancies, such as his kind of sexual abuse fall away.
What we need are men who are trained in the ways of true sexual power – and boys who understand that they have sexual power, before it’s too late.
My hope is to see us stop making men wrong for being sexual, and instead start encouraging them to claim the power they have as sexual beings – so love and dignity can emerge, rather than shame and abuse.
What do you think? Share your opinions in the comments below.