Yes, there are some things that only people in happy, healthy relationships know.
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What makes for a heathy romantic relationship differs from couple to couple. Forming a trusting and positive partnership takes effort and time. And unfortunately, it doesn’t just happen overnight. For any relationship to grow strong and stay strong, you need to put in some work. Below are some habits that will create and maintain a happy and healthy twosome.
Communication
Communication is key. It is one of the most important qualities in keeping a healthy relationship. However, not everyone knows how to communicate properly, or even communicate at all. Happy and healthy couples have their communication game down. They communicate the good. They vocalize their love for one another, saying “I love you” often and offering compliments to their partner. They also discuss the bad, instead of sweeping issues under the rug. In order to move forward and grow as a couple, you two need to be able to truly talk about your feelings. No matter how awkward or uncomfortable it feels, it will make for a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.
Respect
Aretha Franklin sang a whole song about it, so you know it’s got to be important. Respecting your partner comes in many forms. Maintaining a joyful relationship means respecting your partner’s time, heart, character, and trust. However, there are many things people do in relationships that can break down respect between one another. Some of these include name-calling, talking negatively about the other to friends or family, and/or threatening to leave the relationship.
Quality Time, Not Quantity
It’s all about quality over quantity. It doesn’t matter how much time you and your partner spend together. The most important part is about the quality of this time. There’s a huge difference between having dinner at a table while talking about your day at work, versus having dinner while sitting on a couch watching the latest episode of The Voice. It’s fine to zone out together and enjoy distractions, but it’s crucial to make sure you two are still engaging and spending quality time together to maintain a deep connection.
Time Apart
Spending time together with your partner is important. But just as important is spending time apart. Being able to do your own things and remain independent is vital. When couples spend too much time together, it can create an unhealthy codependent relationship. Maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long-lasting partnership.
Dear diah, do something you husband loved even before you came into his life. Connect with his interest and he will connect to you. And when that connection happens ..pour your heart. Out and tell him what you expect..
i wish i had
i wish i had :”)
I really want a long lasting relationship but, I don’t have a healthy relationship. My husband is not romantic, we also never communicate everything. Oh My God! What will be happen? I’m not happy with him. But, I can’t leave because I have two childs now. 🙁
Hey Diah, M nt married yet bt i have seen some of my married friends in this situation. M nt here to give any advice cz m nt experienced enough for that. Bt i read ur comment nd cudn’t resist myself for having a talk with u. I knw the responsibilities u have for which u can’t leave ur spouse, bt this doesn’t mean u r nt allowed to live the way u want. Do one thing, take an initiative, if ur partner doesn’t. U r both equally responsible for the bond between u. So make sure u have tried… Read more »
Great article. Thanks!