You may be heartbroken because that asshole dumped you, but really – was he all that great? Okay, you had some great sex and some deep conversations, but the truth is you want to be with someone who wants to be with YOU. On that note here are 10 reasons being dumped is a blessing:
1. You are free to find the love of your life.
This is the universe telling you — wake up! He’s not the one. There’s a dude out there who is a better fit for you. And now, you have been set free from the wrong person to find the right guy! Focus on doing things that you love and the right person will come along. Maybe it’ll be in your Kung Fu class or you’ll meet her at a coffee shop. Hey, she could even be the waitress who comes to take your order. Keep your eyes open, live your life, and you will find that person who is meant for you. The wrong person who dumped you made all this possible. You have the opportunity to find true love — take it and run with it!
2. This is a chance to reflect and change.
Whether you realize it or not, you probably have a relationship pattern. My relationship pattern is that I tend to pursue men who are emotionally unavailable or disconnected. This could mean they are not over their ex, they repress their emotions, or perhaps they have been hurt so badly in the past they forgot they had emotions at all as a coping mechanism. After being dumped, I realized that this was my pattern, and I wanted to change it. Think about your relationship pattern — is there anything unhealthy in there? Time to change that shit up.
3. You don’t have to share your cake.
When you’re in a relationship, you have to share so many things. You share your bed, your body wash, and even your chocolate cake. That is fucking bullshit. I know they teach us in kindergarten that were supposed to share, but cake should be exempt from that rule. Now that you’ve been set free, you can eat all the cake you want — and it’s yours, damn it.
4. You don’t have to check in when you go out with your friends.
Remember what it’s like to be spontaneous? Oh, that’s right you forgot, because you’ve been in a long-term relationship. You can go out with your friends and you don’t have to check in with anyone to let them know what’s up. Be free, single grasshopper! Who knows, you might meet the partner of your dreams while you guys are out playing pool or some shit. Do you feel like staying out till 3 AM? Do it! Ain’t nobody gonna stop you.
5. Holidays just got 3000 times easier.
Christmas is approaching and you don’t have to check whose family is going to visit. No compromises need to be made. It’s all you, baby. Now you don’t have to deal with someone else’s creepy family; just worry about your own dysfunctional one!
6. You can take up the whole bed. Bonus: No one wakes you up snoring.
7. No more arguing over Netflix.
You’re an Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt fan and he loves Stranger Things. You spend hours arguing about who gets to watch their show. That shit is over because now you’re the one holding the remote. Raise your arm in the air and be proud of your trophy. You can watch whatever the fuck you want and eat the entire carton of ice cream, because sharing is for co-dependent people.
8. You can take long-ass showers.
Take your time in the shower because no one’s going to disturb you. While you’re at it, you can sing at the top of your lungs. Feel like busting out with some N-Sync, do it! Use all the hot water, and after you’re done, throw your fucking towel on the bathroom floor in celebration; no one will protest.
9. Go ahead and order Indian food.
Did your ex despise Indian cuisine? Order the shit out of some Indian food. Get that mango lassi, saag paneer, and even some samosas. Order the shit out of some Indian food. You got this! He doesn’t get to choose because you’re on Seamless now, bitches.
10. Time to Focus on You
What you realize now is that when you were in a relationship, self-care went out the window. It’s time to take that shit back. Time for you to remember who you are, and who you are is beautiful. Now that you are free, you can do things that make you truly happy. Go to that meditation class, take a hike in the mountains; whatever makes you ecstatic do that!
Being dumped is brutal, but it doesn’t have to be an entirely terrible experience. Now, go eat some cake and hog the bed!
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