It probably feels like you’re getting ghosted by your boyfriend — and, in a way, you are.
It is natural to find other people attractive when we are in committed relationships. But the intensity of your attraction for this friend is indicative of some red flags I see here.
— Q. So last year I found out my boyfriend of nine years was having an emotional affair, sending texts to other girls he shouldn’t have, and generally being pretty douchey. I found this out because I read texts between him and his male best friend talking about this stuff. I know, a massive breach…
I am scared that my partner’s father will always hate me and that one day my partner will resent me for causing him to be distant from his family.
No matter how much I’ve scraped together in a month, it always feels like the number that comes up will never be high enough.
Dating in my 30’s is not like dating in my 20’s in several ways.
While I don’t introduce myself as “Hi I’m Nisha, and I’m divorced,” I do reveal this fact relatively quickly; actually, I brag about it.
I’ve wondered over the years if there was something else we could have done — some way we could have helped her — if there was something else I could have said that would have led to a different outcome.
Remember that therapy is just one small part of your overall mental (and physical, because that mind-body shit is serious business) wellbeing.
Whatever self-care you choose, own it.
If you can manage it, go to sleep.
Self-care. It’s that magical moment in time when you get to just take care of YOU.
Intellectually, I understood that my perfectionism was —is— toxic and unhealthy, but emotionally I believed that the reason my life and mind felt so chaotic was because I had yet again failed to be perfect.
This is how girls grow silent: we question whether anyone wants to hear what we have to say and then assume no one will believe what we say is true.
What can I do for us to have a healthy, better, successful life and future marriage?
Even though I’ve never had difficulty meeting men, when I look back over my dating roster, I’m not exactly sad that none of them stuck around.