Healthy relationships require life experience. The more experience you have, the better you become.
This isn’t different from dating. There are a lot of people who will tell men to get married right away or jump into a relationship with the first woman they like.
Life experience does determine what kind of relationships you will have. I get it, you don’t want to wait all your life to get a crash course in life experience but there are ways you can learn on the fly.
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See the world to find your partner
- Traveling allows you to break the limitations as far as who is available to date. Dating based on proximity can cause you to settle at times. The women in your proximity area are not the only women you can date.
- Traveling helps you live an interesting life. Having an interesting life makes you an interesting person with lots of depth. You will have the ability to relate to women of many backgrounds and cultures.
- Travel allows you to overload on freedom. When you experience enough freedom, you won’t have a problem settling down due to you having lived an action-packed life.
At some point, every man should spend a portion of their life just traveling and experiencing the world. Staying in one area your entire life limits your world view and having a limited worldview limits yourself in finding the best potential partner.
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Get your heart broken
- Pain is life’s greatest teacher. Getting your heart broken will tell you a lot about yourself—regardless of the reason you got your heart crushed. Being self-aware is one of the sexiest qualities in a man!
- Pain will give you a warning sign that something has to change. A broken heart doesn’t just happen. There are always warning signs before the bomb drops that could have safeguarded your heart.
- Broken hearts help you maintain a sense of realism and expectations for your next relationship.
The good news is anytime you get into a relationship, you always have the high potential of getting your heart mangled in the romance game. It is an opportunity to grow and learn. The bad news is it is going to hurt like hell.
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Date while you are broke as a joke
- When attempting to date from this low mental state, you will see how having a high mental state adds to your attractiveness.
- When you date while you are broke, you will fully internalize why finances play a huge part in relationships.
- You will have a revelation that your financial situation will determine the kind of woman you will date.
Relationships will cost you. You will pay with time, energy, and finances. Some men have yet to grasp the concept that you need a healthy financial situation to have a healthy relationship.
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Have a conversation with a married man
- You will get first-hand information about what marriage is really like. Marriage is a business that is sold as a product to the right market.
- Talk to married men who have the kind of marriage you want. Here is where you will find the tools necessary to have a successful marriage.
- Also, talk to unhappy married men. Here is where you will get insights about future pitfalls to avoid so your marriage doesn’t become another divorce statistic.
Time is a resource you will give in your relationship experiences. A good way to waste your time and hers is to engage in a relationship not knowing what the point of dating is after a certain period of time. Most women want the goal of marriage. Get information to see if marriage is even an option for you. Maybe your not built for it.
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Date the woman of your dreams
- Dating a woman that you consider your dream girl will help you come to the realization that there isn’t a such thing as a dream girl. This will happen when you start to see her flaws.
- Once the relationship doesn’t turn out how you expected, you get to redefine your definition of what your dream girl is. This particular failed relationship will give you clarity on your future partner selection.
- Dating your dream girl will help you understand yourself better. Your reasons for selecting your girlfriend as your “dream girl” will become crystal clear. You will discover certain traits between you and her.
Most men have the one girl who “got away”. These types of women would be considered dream girls. The good news, they were able to experience this and define what qualities they want in women. The bad news, they didn’t stay with their dream girl long enough to find out that she was only human and would have eventually disappointed them due to unrealisitc expectations.
Everyone wants the best relationship experiences possible but don’t want to go through life experiences in order to obtain the tools to have them.
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I write about living a dope and freedom lifestyle through the mind of an introvert.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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